CHAPTER I
The object of this Essay is to explain as clearly as I am able grounds
of an opinion which I have held from the very earliest period when I had
formed any opinions at all on social political matters, and which, instead
of being weakened or modified, has been constantly growing stronger by
the progress reflection and the experience of life. That the principle
which regulates the existing social relations between the two sexes—the
legal subordination of one sex to the other—is wrong itself, and now one
of the chief hindrances to human improvement; and that it ought to be replaced
by a principle of perfect equality, admitting no power or privilege on
the one side, nor disability on the other.
The very words necessary to express the task I have undertaken, show
how arduous it is. But it would be a mistake to suppose that the difficulty
of the case must lie in the insufficiency or obscurity of the grounds of
reason on which my convictions. The difficulty is that which exists in
all cases in which there is a mass of feeling to be contended against.
So long as opinion is strongly rooted in the feelings, it gains rather
than loses instability by having a preponderating weight of argument against
it. For if it were accepted as a result of argument, the refutation of
the argument might shake the solidity of the conviction; but when it rests
solely on feeling, worse it fares in argumentative contest, the more persuaded
adherents are that their feeling must have some deeper ground, which the
arguments do not reach; and while the feeling remains, it is always throwing
up fresh intrenchments of argument to repair any breach made in the old.
And there are so many causes tending to make the feelings connected with
this subject the most intense and most deeply-rooted of those which gather
round and protect old institutions and custom, that we need not wonder
to find them as yet less undermined and loosened than any of the rest by
the progress the great modern spiritual and social transition; nor suppose
that the barbarisms to which men cling longest must be less barbarisms
than those which they earlier shake off.
In every respect the burthen is hard on those who attack an almost universal
opinion. They must be very fortunate as well as unusually capable if they
obtain a hearing at all. They have more difficulty in obtaining a trial,
than any other litigants have in getting a verdict. If they do extort a
hearing, they are subjected to a set of logical requirements totally different
from those exacted from other people. In all other cases, burthen of proof
is supposed to lie with the affirmative. If a person is charged with a
murder, it rests with those who accuse him to give proof of his guilt,
not with himself to prove his innocence. If there is a difference of opinion
about the reality of an alleged historical event, in which the feelings
of men general are not much interested, as the Siege of Troy example, those
who maintain that the event took place expected to produce their proofs,
before those who take the other side can be required to say anything; and
at no time these required to do more than show that the evidence produced
by the others is of no value. Again, in practical matters, the burthen
of proof is supposed to be with those who are against liberty; who contend
for any restriction or prohibition either any limitation of the general
freedom of human action or any disqualification or disparity of privilege
affecting one person or kind of persons, as compared with others. The a
priori presumption is in favour of freedom and impartiality. It is held
that there should be no restraint not required by I general good, and that
the law should be no respecter of persons but should treat all alike, save
where dissimilarity of treatment is required by positive reasons, either
of justice or of policy. But of none of these rules of evidence will the
benefit be allowed to those who maintain the opinion I profess. It is useless
me to say that those who maintain the doctrine that men ha a right to command
and women are under an obligation obey, or that men are fit for government
and women unfit, on the affirmative side of the question, and that they
are bound to show positive evidence for the assertions, or submit to their
rejection. It is equally unavailing for me to say that those who deny to
women any freedom or privilege rightly allow to men, having the double
presumption against them that they are opposing freedom and recommending
partiality, must held to the strictest proof of their case, and unless
their success be such as to exclude all doubt, the judgment ought to against
them. These would be thought good pleas in any common case; but they will
not be thought so in this instance.
Before I could hope to make any impression, I should be expected not
only to answer all that has ever been said bye who take the other side
of the question, but to imagine that could be said by them—to find them
in reasons, as I as answer all I find: and besides refuting all arguments
for the affirmative, I shall be called upon for invincible positive arguments
to prove a negative. And even if I could do all and leave the opposite
party with a host of unanswered arguments against them, and not a single
unrefuted one on side, I should be thought to have done little; for a cause
supported on the one hand by universal usage, and on the r by so great
a preponderance of popular sentiment, is supposed to have a presumption
in its favour, superior to any conviction which an appeal to reason has
power to produce in intellects but those of a high class.
I do not mention these difficulties to complain of them; first, use
it would be useless; they are inseparable from having to contend through
people's understandings against the hostility their feelings and practical
tendencies: and truly the understandings of the majority of mankind would
need to be much better cultivated than has ever yet been the case, before
they be asked to place such reliance in their own power of estimating arguments,
as to give up practical principles in which have been born and bred and
which are the basis of much existing order of the world, at the first argumentative
attack which they are not capable of logically resisting. I do not therefore
quarrel with them for having too little faith in argument, but for having
too much faith in custom and the general feeling. It is one of the characteristic
prejudices of the ion of the nineteenth century against the eighteenth,
to d to the unreasoning elements in human nature the infallibility which
the eighteenth century is supposed to have ascribed to the reasoning elements.
For the apotheosis of Reason we have substituted that of Instinct; and
we call thing instinct which we find in ourselves and for which we cannot
trace any rational foundation. This idolatry, infinitely more degrading
than the other, and the most pernicious e false worships of the present
day, of all of which it is the main support, will probably hold its ground
until it way before a sound psychology laying bare the real root of much
that is bowed down to as the intention of Nature and ordinance of God.
As regards the present question, I am going to accept the unfavourable
conditions which the prejudice assigns to me. I consent that established
custom, and the general feelings, should be deemed conclusive against me,
unless that custom and feeling from age to age can be shown to have owed
their existence to other causes than their soundness, and to have derived
their power from the worse rather than the better parts of human nature.
I am willing that judgment should go against me, unless I can show that
my judge has been tampered with. The concession is not so great as it might
appear; for to prove this, is by far the easiest portion of my task.
The generality of a practice is in some cases a strong presumption that
it is, or at all events once was, conducive to laudable ends. This is the
case, when the practice was first adopted, or afterwards kept up, as a
means to such ends, and was grounded on experience of the mode in which
they could be most effectually attained. If the authority of men over women,
when first established, had been the result of a conscientious comparison
between different modes of constituting the government of society; if,
after trying various other modes of social organisation—the government
of women over men, equality between the two, and such mixed and divided
modes of government as might be invented—it had been decided, on the testimony
of experience, that the mode in which women are wholly under the rule of
men, having no share at all in public concerns, and each in private being
under the legal obligation of obedience to the man with whom she has associated
her destiny, was the arrangement most conducive to the happiness and well-being
of both; its general adoption might then be fairly thought to be some evidence
that, at the time when it was adopted, it was the best: though even then
the considerations which recommended it may, like so many other primeval
social facts of the greatest importance, have subsequently, in the course
of ages, ceased to exist. But the state of the case is in every respect
the reverse of this. In the first place, the opinion in favour of the present
system, which entirely subordinates the weaker sex to the stronger, rests
upon theory only; for there never has been trial made of any other: so
that experience, in the sense in which it is vulgarly opposed to theory,
cannot be pretended to have pronounced any verdict. And in the second place,
the adoption of this system of inequality never was the result of deliberation,
or forethought, or any social ideas, or any notion whatever of what conduced
to the benefit of humanity or the good order of society. It arose simply
from the fact that from the very earliest twilight of human society, every
woman owing to the value attached to her by men, combined with her inferiority
in muscular strength) was found in a state of bondage to some man. Laws
and systems of polity always begin by recognising the relations they find
already existing between individuals. They convert what was a mere physical
fact into a legal right, give it the sanction of society, and principally
aim at the substitution of public and organised means of asserting and
protecting these rights, instead of the irregular and lawless conflict
of physical strength. Those who had already been compelled to obedience
became in this manner legally bound to it. Slavery, from be inn a mere
affair of force between the master and the slave, became regularised and
a matter of compact among the masters, who, binding themselves to one another
for common protection, guaranteed by their collective strength the private
possessions of each, including his slaves. In early times, the great majority
of the male sex were slaves, as well as the whole of the female. And many
ages elapsed, some of them ages of high cultivation, before any thinker
was bold enough to question the rightfulness, and the absolute social necessity,
either of the one slavery or of the other. By degrees such thinkers did
arise; and (the general progress of society assisting) the slavery of the
male sex has, in all the countries of Christian Europe at least (though,
in one of them, only within the last few years) been at length abolished,
and that of the female sex has been gradually changed into a milder form
of dependence. But this dependence, as it exists at present, is not an
original institution, taking a fresh start from considerations of justice
and social expediency—it is the primitive state of slavery lasting on,
through successive mitigations and modifications occasioned by the same
causes which have softened the general manners, and brought all human relations
more under the control of justice and the influence of humanity. It has
not lost the taint of its brutal origin. No presumption in its favour,
therefore, can be drawn from the fact of its existence. The only such presumption
which it could be supposed to have, must be grounded on its having lasted
till now, when so many other things which came down from the same odious
source have been done away with. And this, indeed, is what makes it strange
to ordinary ears, to hear it asserted that the inequality of rights between
men and women has no other source than the law of the strongest.
That this statement should have the effect of a paradox, is in some
respects creditable to the progress of civilisation, and the improvement
of the moral sentiments of mankind. We now live—that is to say, one or
two of the most advanced nations of the world now live—in a state in which
the law of the strongest seems to be entirely abandoned as the regulating
principle of the world's affairs: nobody professes it, and, as regards
most of the relations between human beings, nobody is permitted to practise
it. When anyone succeeds in doing so, it is under cover of some pretext
which gives him the semblance of having some general social interest on
his side. This being the ostensible state of things, people flatter themselves
that the rule of mere force is ended; that the law of the strongest cannot
be the reason of existence of anything which has remained in full operation
down to the present time. However any of our present institutions may have
begun, it can only, they think, have been preserved to this period of advanced
civilisation by a well-grounded feeling of its adaptation to human nature,
and conduciveness to the general good. They do not understand the great
vitality and durability of institutions which place right on the side of
might; how intensely they are clung to; how the good as well as the bad
propensities and sentiments of those who have power in their hands, become
identified with retaining it; how slowly these bad institutions give way,
one at a time, the weakest first. beginning with those which are least
interwoven with the daily habits of life;and how very rarely those who
have obtained legal power because they first had physical, have ever lost
their hold of it until the physical power had passed over to the other
side. Such shifting of the physical force not having taken place in the
case of women; this fact, combined with all the peculiar and characteristic
features of the particular case, made it certain from the first that this
branch of the system of right founded on might, though softened in its
most atrocious features at an earlier period than several of the others,
would be the very last to disappear. It was inevitable that this one case
of a social relation grounded on force, would survive through generations
of institutions grounded on equal justice, an almost solitary exception
to the general character of their laws and customs; but which, so long
as it does not proclaim its own origin, and as discussion has not brought
out its true character, is not felt to jar with modern civilisation, any
more than domestic slavery among the Greeks jarred with their notion of
themselves as a free people.
The truth is, that people of the present and the last two or three generations
have lost all practical sense of the primitive condition of humanity; and
only the few who have studied history accurately, or have much frequented
the parts of the world occupied by the living representatives of ages long
past, are able to form any mental picture of what society then was. People
are not aware how entirely, informer ages, the law of superior strength
was the rule of life; how publicly and openly it was avowed, I do not say
cynically or shamelessly—for these words imply a feeling that there was
something in it to be ashamed of, and no such notion could find a place
in the faculties of any person in those ages, except a philosopher or a
saint. History gives a cruel experience of human nature, in showing how
exactly the regard due to the life, possessions, and entire earthly happiness
of any class of persons, was measured by what they had the power of enforcing;
how all who made any resistance to authorities that had arms in their hands,
however dreadful might be the provocation, had not only the law of force
but all other laws, and all the notions of social obligation against them;
and in the eyes of those whom they resisted, were not only guilty of crime,
but of the worst of all crimes, deserving the most cruel chastisement which
human beings could inflict. The first small vestige of a feeling of obligation
in a superior to acknowledge any right in inferiors, began when he had
been induced, for convenience, to make some promise to them. Though these
promises, even when sanctioned by the most solemn oaths, were for many
ages revoked or violated on the most trifling provocation or temptation,
it is probably that this, except by persons of still worse than the average
morality, was seldom done without some twinges of conscience. The ancient
republics, being mostly grounded from the first upon some kind of mutual
con;pact, or at any rate formed by an union of persons not very unequal
in strength, afforded, in consequence, the first instance of a portion
of human relations fenced round, and placed under the dominion of another
law than that of force. And though the original law of force remained in
full operation between them and their slaves, and also (except so far as
limited by express compact) between a commonwealth and its subjects, or
other independent commonwealths; the banishment of that primitive law even
from so narrow a field, commenced the regeneration of human nature, by
giving birth to sentiments of which experience soon demonstrated the immense
value even for material interests, and which thence forward only required
to be enlarged, not created. Though slaves were no part of the commonwealth,
it was in the free states that slaves were first felt to have rights as
human beings. The Stoics were, I believe, the first (except so far as the
Jewish law constitutes an exception) who taught as a part of morality that
men were bound by moral obligations to their slaves. No one, after Christianity
became ascendant, could ever again have been a stranger to this belief,
in theory; nor, after the rise of the Catholic Church, was it ever without
persons to stand up for it. Yet to enforce it was the most arduous task
which Christianity ever had to perform. For more thana thousand years the
Church kept up the contest, with hardly any perceptible success. It was
not for want of power over men's minds. Its power was prodigious. It could
make kings and nobles resign their most valued possessions to enrich the
Church. It could make thousands in the prime of life and the height of
worldly advantages, shut themselves up in convents to work out their salvation
by poverty, fasting, and prayer. It could send hundreds of thousands across
land and sea, Europe and Asia, to give their lives for the deliverance
of the Holy Sepulchre. It could make kings relinquish wives who were the
object of their passionate attachment, because the Church declared that
they were within the seventh (by our calculation the fourteenth) degree
of relationship. All this it did; but it could not make men fight less
with one another, nor tyrannise less cruelly over the serfs, and when they
were able, over burgesses. It could not make them renounce either of the
applications of force; force militant, or force triumphant. This they could
never be induced to do until they were themselves in their turn compelled
by superior force. Only by the growing power of kings was an end put to
fighting except between kings, or competitors for kingship; only by the
growth of a wealthy and warlike bourgeoisie in the fortified towns, and
of a plebeian infantry which proved more powerful in the field than the
undisciplined chivalry, was the insolent tyranny of the nobles over the
bourgeoisie and peasantry brought within some bounds. It was persisted
in not only until, but long after, the oppressed had obtained a power enabling
them often to take conspicuous vengeance; and on the Continent much of
it continued to the time of the French Revolution, though in England the
earlier and better organisation of the democratic classes put an end to
it sooner, by establishing equal laws and free national institutions.
If people are mostly so little aware how completely, during the greater
part of the duration of our species, the law of force was the avowed rule
of general conduct, any other being only a special and exceptional consequence
of peculiar ties—-and from how very recent a date it is that the affairs
of society in general have been even pretended to be regulated according
to any moral law; as little do people remember or consider, how institutions
and customs which never had any ground but the law of force, last on into
ages and states of general opinion which never would have permitted their
first establishment. Less than forty years ago, Englishmen might still
by law hold human beings in bondage as saleable property: within the present
century they might kidnap them and carry them off, and work them literally
to death. This absolutely extreme case of the law of force, condemned by
those who can tolerate almost every other form of arbitrary power, and
which, of all others presents features the most revolting to the feelings
of all who look at it from an impartial position, was the law of civilised
and Christian England within the memory of persons now living: and in one
half of Anglo-Saxon America three or four years ago, not only did slavery
exist, but the slave-trade, and the breeding of slaves expressly for it,
was a general practice between slave states. Yet not only was there a greater
strength of sentiment against it, but, in England at least, a less amount
either of feeling or of interest in favour of it, than of any other of
the customary abuses of force: for its motive was the love of gain, unmixed
and undisguised; and those who profited by it were a very small numerical
fraction of the country, while the natural feeling of all who were not
personally interested in it, was unmitigated abhorrence. So extreme an
instance makes it almost superfluous to refer to any other: but consider
the long duration of absolute monarchy. In England at present it is the
almost universal conviction that military despotism is a case of the law
of force, having no other origin or justification. Yet in all the great
nations of Europe except England it either still exists, or has only just
ceased to exist, and has even now a strong party favourable to it in all
ranks of the people, especially among persons of station and consequence.
Such is the power of an established system, even when far from universal;
when not only in almost every period of history there have been great and
well-known examples of the contrary system, but these have almost invariably
been afforded by the most illustrious and most prosperous communities.
In this case, too, the possessor of the undue power, the person directly
interested in it, is only one person, while those who are subject to it
and suffer from it are literally all the rest. The yoke is naturally and
necessarily humiliating to all persons, except the one who is on the throne,
together with, at most, the one who expects to succeed to it. How different
are these cases from that of the power of men over women! I am not now
prejudging the question-of its justifiableness. I am showing how vastly
more permanent it could not but be, even if not justifiable, than these
other dominations which have nevertheless lasted down to our own time.
Whatever gratification of pride there is in the possession of power, and
whatever personal interest in its exercise, is in this case not confined
to a limited class, but common to the whole male sex. Instead of being,
to most of its supporters) a thing desirable chiefly in the abstract, or,
like the political ends usually contended for by factions, of little private
importance to any but the leaders; it comes home to the person and hearth
of every male head of a family, and of everyone who looks forward to being
so. The clodhopper exercises, oris to exercise, his share of the power
equally with the highest nobleman. And the case is that in which the desire
of power is the strongest: for everyone who desires power, desires it most
over those who are nearest to him, with whom his life is passed, with whom
he has most concerns in common and in whom any independence of his authority
is oftenest likely to interfere with his individual preferences. If, in
the other cases specified, powers manifestly grounded only on force, and
having so much less to support them, are so slowly and with so much difficulty
got rid of, much more must it be so with this, even if it rests on no better
foundation than those. We must consider, too, that the possessors of the
power have facilities in this case, greater than in any other, to prevent
any uprising against it. Every one of the subjects lives under the very
eye, and almost, it may be said, in the hands, of one of the masters in
closer intimacy with him than with any of her fellow-subjects; with no
means of combining against him, no power of even locally over mastering
him, and, on the other hand, with the strongest motives for seeking his
favour and avoiding to give him offence. In struggles for political emancipation,
everybody knows how often its champions are bought off by bribes, or daunted
by terrors. In the case of women, each individual of the subject-class
is in a chronic state of bribery and intimidation combined. In setting
up the standard of resistance, a large number of the leaders, and still
more of the followers, must make an almost complete sacrifice of the pleasures
or the alleviations of their own individual lot. If ever any system of
privilege and enforced subjection had its yoke tightly riveted on the those
who are kept down by it, this has. I have not yet shown that it is a wrong
system: but everyone who is capable of thinking on the subject must see
that even if it is, it was certain to outlast all other forms of unjust
authority. And when some of the grossest of the other forms still exist
in many civilised countries, and have only recently been got rid of in
others, it would be strange if that which is so much the deepest rooted
had yet been perceptibly shaken anywhere. There is more reason to wonder
that the protests and testimonies against it should have been so numerous
and so weighty as they are.
Some will object, that a comparison cannot fairly be made between the
government of the male sex and the forms of unjust power which I have adduced
in illustration of it, since these are arbitrary, and the effect of mere
usurpation, while it on the contrary is natural. But was there ever any
domination which did not appear natural to those who possessed it? There
was a time when the division of mankind into two classes, a small one of
masters and a numerous one of slaves, appeared, even to the most cultivated
minds, to be natural, and the only natural, condition of the human race.
No less an intellect, and one which contributed no less to the progress
of human thought, than Aristotle, held this opinion without doubt or misgiving;
and rested it on the same premises on which the same assertion in regard
to the dominion of men over women is usually based, namely that there are
different natures among mankind, free natures, and slave natures; that
the Greeks were of a free nature, the barbarian races of Thracians and
Asiatics of a slave nature. But why need I go back to Aristotle? Did not
the slave-owners of the Southern United States maintain the same doctrine,
with all the fanaticism with which men ding to the theories that justify
their passions and legitimate their personal interests? Did they not call
heaven and earth to witness that the dominion of the white man over the
black is natural, that the black race is by nature incapable of freedom,
and marked out for slavery? some even going so far as to say that the freedom
of manual labourers is an unnatural order of things anywhere. Again, the
theorists of absolute monarchy have always affirmed it to be the only natural
form of government; issuing from the patriarchal, which was the primitive
and spontaneous form of society, framed on the model of the paternal, which
is anterior to society itself, and, as they contend, the most natural authority
of all. Nay, for that matter, the law of force itself, to those who could
not plead any other has always seemed the most natural of all grounds for
the exercise of authority. Conquering races hold it to be Nature's own
dictate that the conquered should obey the conquerors, or as they euphoniously
paraphrase it, that the feebler and more unwarlike races should submit
to the braver and manlier. The smallest acquaintance with human life in
the middle ages, shows how supremely natural the dominion of the feudal
nobility overmen of low condition appeared to the nobility themselves,
and how unnatural the conception seemed, of a person of the inferior class
claiming equality with them, or exercising authority over them. It hardly
seemed less so to the class held in subjection. The emancipated serfs and
burgesses, even in their most vigorous struggles, never made any pretension
to a share of authority; they only demanded more or less of limitation
to the power of tyrannising over them. So true is it that unnatural generally
means only uncustomary, and that everything which is usual appears natural.
The subjection of women to men being a universal custom, any departure
from it quite naturally appears unnatural. But how entirely, even in this
case, the feeling is dependent on custom, appears by ample experience.
Nothing so much astonishes the people of distant parts of the world, when
they first learn anything about England, as to be told that it is under
a queen; the thing seems to them so unnatural as to be almost incredible.
To Englishmen this does not seem in the least degree unnatural, because
they are used to it; but they do feel it unnatural that women should be
soldiers or Members of Parliament. In the feudal ages, on the contrary,
war and politics were not thought unnatural to women, because not unusual;
it seemed natural that women of the privileged classes should be of manly
character, inferior in nothing but bodily strength to their husbands and
fathers. The independence of women seemed rather less unnatural to the
Greeks than to other ancients, on account of the fabulous Amazons (whom
they believed to be historical), and the partial example afforded by the
Spartan women; who, though no less subordinate by law than in other Greek
states, were more free in fact, and being trained to bodily exercises in
the same manner with men, gave ample proof that they were not naturally
disqualified for them. There can be little doubt that Spartan experience
suggested to Plato, among many other of his doctrines, t of the social
and political equality of the two sexes.
But, it will be said, the rule of men over women differs from all these
others in not being a rule a rule of force: it is accepted voluntarily;
women make no complaint, and are consenting parties to it. In the first
place, a great number of women do not accept it. Ever since there have
been women able to make their sentiments known by their writings (the only
mode of publicity which society permits to them), an increasing number
of them have recorded protests against their present social condition:
and recently many thousands of them, headed by the most eminent women known
to the public, have petitioned Parliament for their admission to the Parliamentary
Suffrage The claim of women to be educated as solidly, and in the same
branches of knowledge, as men, is urged with growing intensity, and with
a great prospect of success; while the demand for their admission into
professions and occupations hitherto closed against them, becomes every
year more urgent. Though there are not in this country, as there are in
the United States, periodical conventions and an organised party to agitate
for the Rights of Women, there is a numerous and active society organised
and managed by women, for the more limited object of obtaining the political
franchise. Nor is it only in our own country and in America that women
are beginning to protest, more or less collectively, against the disabilities
under which they labour. France, and Italy, and Switzerland, and Russia
now afford examples of the same thing. How many more women there are who
silently cherish similar aspirations, no one can possibly know; but there
are abundant tokens how many would cherish them, were they not so strenuously
taught to repress them as contrary to the proprieties of their sex. It
must be remembered, also, that no enslaved class ever asked for complete
liberty at once. When Simon de Montfort called the deputies of the commons
to sit for the first time in Parliament, did any of them dream of demanding
that an assembly, elected by their constituents)should make and destroy
ministries, and dictate to the king in affairs of State ? No such thought
entered into the imagination of the most ambitious of them. The nobility
had already these pretensions; the commons pretended to nothing but to
be exempt from arbitrary taxation, and from the gross individual oppression
of the king's officers. It is a political law of nature that those who
are under any power of ancient origin, never begin by complaining of the
power itself, but only of its oppressive exercise. There is never any want
of women who complain of ill-usage by their husbands. There would be infinitely
more, if complaint were not the greatest of all provocatives to a repetition
and increase of the ill-usage. It is this which frustrates all attempts
to maintain the power but protect the woman against its abuses. In no other
case (except that of a child) is the person who has been proved judicially
to have suffered an injury, replaced under the physical power of the culprit
who inflicted it. Accordingly wives, even in the most extreme and protracted
cases of bodily ill-usage, hardly ever dare avail themselves of the laws
made for their protection: and if, in a moment of irrepressible indignation,
or by the interference of neighbours, they are induced to do so, their
whole effort afterwards is to disclose as little as they can, and to beg
off their tyrant from his merited chastisement.
All causes, social and natural, combine to make it unlikely that women
should be collectively rebellious to the power of men. They are so far
in a position different from all other subject classes, that their masters
require something more from them than actual service. Men do not want solely
the obedience of women, they want their sentiments. All men, except the
most brutish, desire to have, in the woman most nearly connected with them,
not a forced slave but a willing one, not a slave merely, but a favourite.
They have therefore put everything in practice to enslave their minds.
The masters of all other slaves rely, for maintaining obedience, on fear;
either fear of themselves, or religious fears. The masters of women wanted
more than simple obedience, and they turned the whole force of education
to effect their purpose. All women are brought up from the very earliest
years in the belief that their ideal of character is the very opposite
to that of men; not self will, and government by self-control, but submission,
and yielding to the control of other. All the moralities tell them that
it is the duty of women, and all the current sentimentalities that it is
their nature, to live for others; to make complete abnegation of themselves,
and to have no life but in their affections. And by their affections are
meant the only ones they are allowed to have - - those to the men with
whom they are connected, or to the children who constitute an additional
and indefeasible tie between them and a man. When we put together three
things — first, the natural attraction between opposite sexes; secondly,
the wife's entire dependence on the husband, every privilege or pleasure
she has being either his gift, or depending entirely on his will; and lastly,
that the principal object of human pursuit, consideration, and all objects
of social ambition, can in general be sought or obtained by her only through
him, it would be a miracle if the object of being attractive to men had
not become the polar star of feminine education and formation of character.
And, this great means of influence over the minds of women having been
acquired, an instinct of selfishness made men avail themselves of it to
the utmost as a means of holding women in subjection, by representing to
them meekness, submissiveness, and resignation of all individual will into
the hands of a man, as an essential part of sexual attractiveness. Can
it be doubted that any of the other yokes which mankind have succeeded
in breaking, would have subsisted till now if the same means had existed,
and had been so sedulously used, to bow down their minds to it? If it had
been made the object of the life of every young plebeian to find personal
favour in the eyes of some patrician, of every young serf with some seigneur;
if domestication with him, and a share of his personal affections, had
been held out as the prize which they all should look out for, the most
gifted and aspiring being able to reckon on the most desirable prizes;
and if, when this prize had been obtained, they had been shut out by a
wall of brass from all interests not centring in him, all feelings and
desires but those which he shared or inculcated; would not serfs and seigneurs,
plebeians and patricians, have been as broadly distinguished at this day
as men and women are? and would not all but a thinker here and there, have
believed the distinction to be a fundamental and unalterable fact in human
nature?
The preceding considerations are amply sufficient to show that custom,
however universal it may be, affords in this case no presumption, and ought
not to create any prejudice, in favour of the arrangements which place
women in social and political subjection to men. But I may go farther,
and maintain that the course of history, and the tendencies of progressive
human society, afford not only no presumption in favour of this system
of inequality of rights, but a strong one against it; and that, so far
as the whole course of human improvement up to the time, the whole stream
of modern tendencies, warrants any inference on the subject, it is, that
this relic of the past is discordant with the future, and must necessarily
disappear.
For, what is the peculiar character of the modern world-the difference
which chiefly distinguishes modern institutions, modern social ideas, modern
life itself, from those of times long past? It is, that human beings are
no longer born to their place in life, and chained down by an inexorable
bond to the would be infinitely more, if complaint were not the greatest
of all provocatives to a repetition and increase of the ill-usage. It is
this which frustrates all attempts to maintain the power but protect the
woman against its abuses. In no other case (except that of a child) is
the person who has been proved judicially to have suffered an injury, replaced
under the physical power of the culprit who inflicted it. Accordingly wives,
even in the most extreme and protracted cases of bodily ill-usage, hardly
ever dare avail themselves of the laws made for their protection: and if,
in a moment of irrepressible indignation, or by the interference of neighbours,
they are induced to do so, their whole effort afterwards is to disclose
as little as they can, and to beg off their tyrant from his merited chastisement.
All causes, social and natural, combine to make it unlikely that women
should be collectively rebellious to the power of . men. They are so far
in a position different from all other subject classes, that their masters
require something more from them than actual service Men do not want solely
the obedience of women, they want their sentiments. All men, except the
most brutish, desire to have, in the woman most nearly connected with them,
not a forced slave but a willing one, not a slave merely, but a favourite.
They have therefore put everything in practice to enslave their minds.
The masters of all other slaves rely, for maintaining obedience, on fear;
either fear of themselves, or religious fears. The masters of women wanted
more than simple obedience, and they turned the whole force of education
to effect their purpose. All women are brought up from the very earliest
years in the belief that their ideal of character is the very opposite
to that of men; not self-will, and government by self-control, but submission,
and yielding to the control of others. All the moralities tell them that
it is the duty of women, and all the current sentimentalities that it is
their nature, to live for others; to make complete abnegation of themselves,
and to have no life but in their affections. And by their affections are
meant the only ones they are allowed to have—those to the men with whom
they are connected, or to the children who constitute an additional and
indefeasible tie between them and a man. When we put together three things—first,
the natural attraction between opposite sexes; secondly, the wife's entire
dependence on the husband, every privilege or pleasure she has being either
his gift, or depending entirely on his will; and lastly, that the principal
object of human pursuit, consideration, and all objects of social ambition,
can in general be sought or obtained by her only through him, it would
be a miracle if the object of being attractive to men had not become the
polar star of feminine education and formation of character. And, this
great means of influence over the minds of women having been acquired,
an instinct of selfishness made men avail themselves of it to the utmost
as a means of holding women in subjection, by representing to them meekness,
submissiveness, and resignation of all individual will into the hands of
a man, as an essential part of sexual attractiveness. Can it be doubted
that any of the other yokes which mankind have succeeded in breaking, would
have subsisted till now if the same means had existed, and had been so
sedulously used, to bow down their minds to it? If it had been made the
object of the life of every young plebeian to find personal favour in the
eyes of some patrician, of every young serf with some seigneur; if domestication
with him, and a share of his personal affections, had been held out as
the prize which they all should look out for, the most gifted and aspiring
being able to reckon on the most desirable prizes; and if, when this prize
had been obtained, they had been shut out by a wall of brass from all interests
not centring in him, all feelings and desires but those which he shared
or inculcated; would not serfs and seigneurs, plebeians and patricians,
have been as broadly distinguished at this day as men and women are? and
would not all but a thinker here and there, have believed the distinction
to be a fundamental and unalterable fact in human nature? The preceding
considerations are amply sufficient to show that custom, however universal
it may be, affords in this case no presumption, and ought not to create
any prejudice, in favour of the arrangements which place women in social
and political subjection to men. But I may go farther, and maintain that
the course of history, and the tendencies of progressive human society,
afford not only no presumption in favour of this system of inequality of
rights, but a strong one against it; and that, so far as the whole course
of human improvement up to the time, the whole stream of modern tendencies,
warrants any inference on the subject, it is, that this relic of the past
is discordant with the future, and must necessarily disappear. For, what
is the peculiar character of the modern world-the difference which chiefly
distinguishes modern institutions, modern social ideas, modern life itself,
from those of times long past? It is, that human beings are no longer born
to their place in life, and chained down by an inexorable bond to the place
they are born to, but are free to employ their faculties, and such favourable
chances as offer, to achieve the lot which may appear to them most desirable.
Human society of old was constituted on a very different principle. All
were born to a fixed social position, and were mostly kept in it by law,
or interdicted from any means by which they could emerge from it. As some
men are born white and others black, so some were born slaves and others
freemen and citizens; some were born patricians, others plebeians; some
were born feudal nobles, others commoners and roturiers. A slave or serf
could never make himself free, nor, except by the will of his master, become
so. In most European countries it was not till towards the close of the
middle ages, and as a consequence of the growth of regal power, that commoners
could be ennobled. Even among nobles, the eldest son was born the exclusive
heir to the paternal possessions, and a long time elapsed before it was
fully established that the father could disinherit him. Among the industrious
classes, only those who were born members of a guild, or were admitted
into it by its members, could lawfully practise their calling within its
local limits; and nobody could practise any calling deemed important, in
any but the legal manner—by processes authoritatively prescribed. Manufacturers
have stood in the pillory for presuming to carry on their business by new
and improved methods. In modern Europe, and most in those parts of it which
have participated most largely in all other modern improvements, diametrically
opposite doctrines now prevail. Law and government do not undertake to
prescribe by whom any social or industrial operation shall or shall not
be conducted, or what modes of conducting them shall be lawful. These things
are left to the unfettered choice of individuals. Even the laws which required
that workmen should serve an apprenticeship, have in this country been
repealed: there being ample assurance that in all cases in which an apprenticeship
is necessary, its necessity will suffice to enforce it. The old theory
was, that the least possible should be left to the choice of the individual
agent; that all he had to do should, as far as practicable, be laid down
for him by superior wisdom. Left to himself he was sure to go wrong. The
modern conviction, the fruit of a thousand years of experience, is, that
things in which the individual is the person directly interested, never
go right but as they are left to his own discretion; and that any regulation
of them by authority, except to protect the rights of others, is sure to
be mischievous. This conclusion slowly arrived at, and not adopted until
almost every possible application of the contrary theory had been made
with disastrous result, now (in the industrial department) prevails universally
in the most advanced countries, almost universally in all that have pretensions
to any sort of advancement. It is not that all processes are supposed to
be equally good, or all persons to be equally qualified for everything;
but that freedom of individual choice is now known to be the only thing
which procures the adoption of the best processes, and throws each operation
into the hands of those who are best qualified for it. Nobody thinks it
necessary to make a law that only a strong-armed man shall be a blacksmith.
Freedom and competition suffice to make blacksmiths strong-armed men, because
the weak armed can earn more by engaging in occupations for which they
are more fit. In consonance with this doctrine, it is felt to be an overstepping
of the proper bounds of authority to fix beforehand, on some general presumption,
that certain persons are not fit to do certain things. It is now thoroughly
known and admitted that if some such presumptions exist, no such presumption
is infallible. Even if it be well grounded in a majority of cases, which
it is very likely not to be, there will be a minority of exceptional cases
in which it does not hold: and in those it is both an injustice to the
individuals, and a detriment to society, to place barriers in the way of
their using their faculties for their own benefit and for that of others.
In the cases, on the other hand, in which the unfitness is real, the ordinary
motives of human conduct will on the whole suffice to prevent the incompetent
person from making, or from persisting in, the attempt.
If this general principle of social and economical science is not true;
if individuals, with such help as they can derive from the opinion of those
who know them, are not better judges than the law and the government, of
their own capacities and vocation; the world cannot too soon abandon this
principle, and return to the old system of regulations and disabilities.
But if the principle is true, we ought to act as if we believed it, and
not to ordain that to be born a girl instead of a boy, any more than to
be born black instead of white, or a commoner instead of a nobleman, shall
decide the person's position through all life—shall interdict people from
all the more elevated social positions, and from all, except a few, respectable
occupations. Even were we to admit the utmost that is ever pretended a
to the superior fitness of men for all the functions now reserve to them,
the same argument applies which forbids a legal qualification for Members
of Parliament. If only once in a dozen years the conditions of eligibility
exclude a fit person, there is a real loss, while the exclusion of thousands
of unfit persons is no gain; for if the constitution of the electoral body
disposes them to choose unfit persons, there are always plenty of such
persons to choose from. In all things of any difficulty and importance,
those who can do them well are fewer than the need, even with the most
unrestricted latitude of choice: and any limitation of the field of selection
deprives society of some chances of being served by the competent, without
ever saving it from the incompetent.
At present, in the more improved countries, the disabilities of women
are the only case, save one, in which laws and institutions take persons
at their birth, and ordain that they shall never in all their lives be
allowed to compete for certain things. The one exception is that of royalty.
Persons still are born to the throne; no one, not of the reigning family,
can ever occupy it, and no one even of that family can, by any means but
the course of hereditary succession, attain it. All other dignities and
social advantages are open to the whole male sex: many indeed are only
attainable by wealth, but wealth may be striven for by anyone, and is actually
obtained by many men of the very humblest origin. The difficulties, to
the majority, are indeed insuperable without the aid of fortunate accidents;
but no male human being is under any legal ban: neither law nor opinion
superadd artificial obstacles to the natural ones. Royalty, as I have said,
is excepted: but in this case everyone feels it to be an exception—an
anomaly in the modern world, in marked opposition to its customs and principles,
and to be justified only by extraordinary special expediences, which, though
individuals and nations differ in estimating their weight, unquestionably
do in fact exist. But in this exceptional case, in which a high social
function is, for important reasons, bestowed on birth instead of being
put up to competition, all free nations contrive to adhere in substance
to the principle from which they nominally derogate; for they circumscribe
this high function by conditions avowedly intended to prevent the person
to whom it ostensibly belongs from really performing it; while the person
by whom it is performed, the responsible minister, does obtain the post
by a competition from which no full-grown citizen of the male sex is legally
excluded. The disabilities, therefore, to which women are subject from
the mere fact of their birth, are the solitary examples of the kind in
modern legislation. In no instance except this, which comprehends half
the human race, are the higher social functions closed against anyone by
a fatality of birth which no exertions, and no change of circumstances,
can overcome; for even religious disabilities (besides that in England
and in Europe they have practically almost ceased to exist) do not close
any career to the disqualified person in case of conversion.
The social subordination of women thus stands out an isolated fact in
modern social institutions; a solitary breach of what has become their
fundamental law; a single relic of an old world of thought and practice
exploded in everything else, but retained in the one thing of most universal
interest; as if a gigantic dolmen, or a vast temple of Jupiter Olympius,
occupied the site of St. Paul's and received daily worship, while the surrounding
Christian churches were only resorted to on fasts and festivals. This entire
discrepancy between one social fact and all those which accompany it, and
the radical opposition between its nature and the progressive movement
which is the boast of the modern world, and which has successively swept
away everything else of an analogous character, surely affords, to a conscientious
observer of human tendencies, serious matter for reflection. It raises
a prima facie presumption on the unfavourable side, far outweighing any
which custom and usage could in such circumstances create on the favourable;and
should at least suffice to make this, like the choice between republicanism
and royalty, a balanced question.
The least that can be demanded is, that the question should not be considered
as prejudged by existing fact and existing opinion, but open to discussion
on its merits, as a question of justice and expediency: the decision on
this, as on any of the other social arrangements of mankind, depending
on what an enlightened estimate of tendencies and consequences may show
to be most advantageous to humanity in general, without distinction of
sex. And the discussion must be a real discussion, descending to foundations,
and not resting satisfied with vague and general assertions. It will not
do, for instance to assert in general terms, that the experience of mankind
has pronounced in favour of the existing system. Experience cannot possibly
have decided between two courses, so long as there has only been experience
of one. If it be said that the doctrine of the equality of the sexes rests
only on theory, it must be remembered that the contrary doctrine also has
only theory to rest upon. All that is proved in its favour by direct experience,
is that mankind have been able to exist under it, and to attain the degree
of improvement and prosperity which we now see; but whether that prosperity
has been attained sooner, or is now greater, than it would have been under
the other system, experience does not say. on the other hand, experience
does say, that every step in improvement has been so invariably accompanied
by a step made in raising the social position of women, that historians
and philosophers have been led to adopt their elevation or debasement as
on the whole the surest test and most correct measure of the civilisation
of a people or an age. Through all the progressive period of human history,
the condition of women has been approaching nearer to equality with men.
This does not of itself prove that the assimilation must goon to complete
equality; but it assuredly affords some presumption that such is the case.
Neither does it avail anything to say that the nature of the two sexes
adapts them to their present functions and position, and renders these
appropriate to them. Standing on the ground of common sense and the constitution
of the human mind, I deny that anyone knows, or can know, the nature of
the two sexes, as long as they have only been seen in their present relation
to one another. If men had ever been found in society without women, or
women without men, or if there had been a society of men and women in which
the women were not under the control of the men, something might have been
positively known about the mental and moral differences which may be inherent
in the nature of each. What is now called the nature of women is an eminently
artificial thing—the result of forced repression in some directions, unnatural
stimulation in others. It may be asserted without scruple, that no other
class of dependents have had their character so entirely distorted from
its natural proportions by their relation with their masters; for, if conquered
and slave races have been, in some respects, more forcibly repressed, whatever
in them has not been crushed down by an iron heel has generally been let
alone, and if left with any liberty of development, it has developed itself
according to its own laws; but in the case of women, a hot-house and stove
cultivation has always been carried on of some of the capabilities of their
nature, for the benefit and pleasure of their masters Then, because certain
products of the general vital force sprout luxuriantly and reach a great
development in this heated atmosphere and under this active nurture and
watering, while other shoots from the same root, which are left outside
in the wintry air, with ice purposely heaped all round them, have a stunted
growth, and some are burnt off with fire and disappear; men, with that
inability to recognise their own work which distinguishes the unanalytic
mind, indolently believe that the tree grows of itself in the way they
have made it grow, and that it would die if one half of it were not kept
in a vapour bath and the other half in the snow.
Of all difficulties which impede the progress of thought, and the formation
of well-grounded opinions on life and social arrangements, the greatest
is now the unspeakable ignorance and inattention of mankind in respect
to the influences which form human character. Whatever any portion of the
human species now are, or seem to be, such, it is supposed, they have a
natural tendency to be: even when the most elementary knowledge of the
circumstances in which they have been placed, clearly points out the causes
that made them what they are. Because a cottier deeply in arrears to his
landlord is not industrious, there are people who think that the Irish
are naturally idle. Because constitutions can be overthrown when the authorities
appointed to execute them turn their arms against them, there are people
who think the French incapable of free government. Because the Greeks cheated
the Turks, and the Turks only plundered the Greeks, there are persons who
think that the Turks are naturally more sincere: and because women, as
is often said, care nothing about politics except their personalities,
it is supposed that the general good is naturally less interesting to women
than to men. History, which is now so much better understood than formerly,
teaches another lesson: if only by showing the extraordinary susceptibility
of human nature to external influences, and the extreme variableness of
those of its manifestations which are supposed to be most universal and
uniform. But in history, as in travelling, men usually see only what they
already had in their own minds; and few learn much from history, who do
not bring much with them to its study.
Hence, in regard to that most difficult question, what are the natural
differences between the two sexes—a subject on which it is impossible
in the present state of society to obtain complete and correct knowledge—while
almost everybody dogmatises upon it, almost all neglect and make light
of the only means by which any partial insight can be obtained into it.
This is, an analytic study of the most important department of psychology,
the laws of the influence of circumstances on character. For, however great
and apparently ineradicable the moral and intellectual differences between
men and women might be, the evidence of there being natural differences
could only be negative. Those only could be inferred to be natural which
could not possibly be artificial—the residuum, after deducting every characteristic
of either sex which can admit of being explained from education or external
circumstances. The profoundest knowledge of the laws of the formation of
character is indispensable to entitle anyone to affirm even that there
is any difference, much more what the difference is, between the two sexes
considered as moral and rational beings; and since no one, as yet, has
that knowledge (for there is hardly any subject which, in proportion to
its importance, has been so little studied), no one is thus far entitled
to any positive opinion on the subject. Conjectures are all that can at
present be made;conjectures more or less probable, according as more or
less authorised by such knowledge as we yet have of the laws of psychology,
as applied to the formation of character.
Even the preliminary knowledge, what the differences between the sexes
now are, apart from all question as to how they are made what they are,
is still in the crudest and most' incomplete state. Medical practitioners
and physiologists have ascertained, to some extent, the differences in
bodily constitution; and this is an important element to the psychologist:
but hardly any medical practitioner is a psychologist. Respecting the mental
characteristics of women; their observations are of no more worth than
those of common men. It is a subject on which nothing final can be known,
so long as those who alone can really know it, women themselves, have given
but little testimony, and that little, mostly suborned. It is easy to know
stupid women. Stupidity is much the same all the world over. A stupid person's
notions and feelings may confidently be inferred from those which prevail
in the circle by which the person is surrounded. Not so with those whose
opinions and feelings are an emanation from their own nature and faculties.
It is only a man here and there who has any tolerable knowledge of the
character even of the women of his own family. I do not mean, of their
capabilities; these nobody knows, not even themselves, because most of
them have never been called out. I mean their actually existing thoughts
and feelings. Many a man think she perfectly understands women, because
he has had amatory relations with several, perhaps with many of them.
If he is a good observer, and his experience extends to quality as well
as quantity, he may have learnt something of one narrow department of their
nature—an important department, no doubt. But of all the rest of it, few
persons are generally more ignorant, because there are few from whom it
is so carefully hidden. The most favourable case which a man can generally
have for studying the character of a woman, is that of his own wife: for
the opportunities are greater, and the cases of complete sympathy not so
unspeakably rare. And in fact, this is the source from which any knowledge
worth having on the subject has, I believe, generally come. But most men
have not had the opportunity of studying in this way more than a single
case: accordingly one can, to an almost laughable degree, infer what a
man's wife is like, from his opinions about women in general. To make even
this one case yield any result, the woman must be worth knowing, and the
man not only a competent judge, but of a character so sympathetic in itself,
and so well adapted to hers, that he can either read her mind by sympathetic
intuition, or has nothing in himself which makes her shy of disclosing
it, Hardly anything, I believe, can be more rare than this conjunction.
It often happens that there is the most complete unity of feeling and community
of interests as to all external things, yet the one has as little admission
into the internal life of the other as if they were common acquaintance.
Even with true affection, authority on the one side and subordination on
the other prevent perfect confidence. Though nothing may be intentionally
withheld, much is not shown. In the analogous relation of parent and child,
the corresponding phenomenon must have been in the observation of everyone.
As between father and son, how many are the cases in which the father,
in spite of real affection on both sides, obviously to all the world does
not know, nor suspect, parts of the son's character familiar to his companions
and equals. The truth is, that the position of looking up to another is
extremely unpropitious to complete sincerity and openness with him. The
fear of losing ground in his opinion or in his feelings is so strong, that
even in an upright character, there is an unconscious tendency to show
only the best side, or the side which, though not the best, is that which
he most likes to see: and it may be confidently said that thorough knowledge
of one another hardly ever exists, but between persons who, besides being
intimates, are equals. How much more true, then, must all this be, when
the one is not only under the authority of the other, but has it inculcated
on her as a duty to reckon everything else subordinate to his comfort and
pleasure, and to let him neither see nor feel anything coming from her,
except what is agreeable to him. All these difficulties stand in the way
of a man's obtaining any thorough knowledge even of the one woman whom
alone, in general, he has sufficient opportunity of studying. When we further
consider that to understand one woman is not necessarily to understand
any other woman; that even if he could study many women of one rank, or
of one country, he would not thereby understand women of other ranks or
countries; and even if he did, they are still only the women of a single
period of history; we may safely assert that the knowledge which men can
acquire of women, even as they have been and are, without reference to
what they might be, is wretchedly imperfect and superficial, and always
will be so, until women themselves have told all that they have to tell.
And this time has not come; nor will it come otherwise than gradually.
It is but of yesterday that women have either been qualified by literary
accomplishments or permitted by society, to tell anything to the general
public. As yet very few of them dare tell anything, which men, on whom
their literary success depends, are unwilling to hear. Let us remember
in what manner, up to a very recent time, the expression, even by a male
author, of uncustomary opinions, or what are deemed eccentric feelings,
usually was, and in some degree still is, received; and we may form some
faint conception under what impediments a woman, who is brought up to think
custom and opinion her sovereign rule, attempts to express in books anything
drawn from the depths of her own nature. The greatest woman who has left
writings behind her sufficient to give her an eminent rank in the literature
of her country, thought it necessary to prefix as a motto to her boldest
work, " Un homme peut braver l'opinion; une femme doit s'y soumettre."
[1] The greater part of what women write about women is mere sycophancy
to men. In the case of unmarried women, much of it seems only intended
to increase their chance of a husband. Many, both married and unmarried,
overstep the mark, and inculcate a servility beyond what is desired or
relished by any man, except the very vulgarest. But this is not so often
the L case as, even at a quite late period, it still was. Literary women
I are becoming more free-spoken, and more willing to express their real
sentiments. Unfortunately, in this country especially, they are themselves
such artificial products, that their sentiments are compounded of a small
element of individual observation and consciousness, and a very large one
of acquired associations. This will be less and less the case, but it will
remain true to a great extent, as long as social institutions do not admit
the same free development of originality in women which is possible to
men. When that time comes, and not before, we shall see, and not merely
hear, as much as it is necessary to know of the nature of women, and the
adaptation of other things to it.
I have dwelt so much on the difficulties which at present obstruct any
real knowledge by men of the true nature of women, because in this as in
so many other things "opinio copiae inter maximas causas inopiae est";
and there is little chance of reasonable thinking on the matter while people
flatter themselves that they perfectly understand a subject of which most
men know absolutely nothing, and of which it is at present impossible that
any man, or all men taken together, should have knowledge which can qualify
them to lay down the law to women as to what is, or is not, their vocation.
Happily, no such knowledge is necessary for any practical purpose connected
with the position of women is relation to society and life. For, according
to all the principles involved in modern society, the question rests with
women themselves—to be decided by their own experience, and by the use
of their own faculties. There are no means of finding what either one person
or many can do, but by trying—and no means by which anyone else can discover
for them what it is for their happiness to do or leave undone.
One thing we may be certain of—that what is contrary to women's nature
to do, they never will be made to do by simply giving their nature free
play. The anxiety of mankind to interfere in behalf of nature, for fear
lest nature should not succeed m effecting its purpose, is an altogether
unnecessary solicitude. What women by nature cannot do, it is quite superfluous
to forbid them from doing. What they can do, but not so well as the men
who are their competitors, competition suffices to exclude them from; since
nobody asks for protective duties and bounties in favour of women; it is
only asked that the present bounties and protective duties in favour of
men should be recalled. If women have a greater natural inclination for
somethings than for others, there is no need of laws or social inculcation
to make the majority of them do the former in preference to the latter.
Whatever women's services are most wanted for, the free play of competition
will hold out the strongest inducements to them to undertake. And, as the
words imply, they are most wanted for the things for which they are most
fit; by the apportionment of which to them, the collective faculties of
the two sexes can be applied on the whole with the greatest sum of valuable
result. The general opinion of men is supposed to be, that the natural
vocation of a woman is that of a wife and mother. I say, is supposed to
be, because, judging from acts—from the whole of the present constitution
of society—one might infer that their opinion was the direct contrary.
They might be supposed to think that the alleged natural vocation of women
was of all things the most repugnant to their nature; insomuch that if
they are free to do anything else—if any other means of living or occupation
of their time and faculties, is open, which has any chance of appearing
desirable to them- there will not be enough of them who will be willing
to accept the condition said to be natural to them. If this is the real
opinion of men in general, it would be well that it should be spoken out.
I should like to hear somebody openly enunciating the doctrine (it is already
implied in much that is written on the subJect)- It is necessary to society
that women should marry and produce children. They will not do so unless
they are compelled. Therefore it is necessary to compel them. " The merits
of the case would then be clearly defined. It would be exactly that of
the slave-holders of South Carolina and Louisiana. " It is necessary that
cotton and sugar should be grown. White men cannot produce them. Negroes
will not, for any wages which we choose to give. Ergo they must be compelled.
" An illustration still closer to the point is that of impressment. Sailors
must absolutely be had to defend the country. It often happens that they
will not voluntarily enlist. Therefore there must be the power of forcing
them. How often has this logic been used!and, but for one flaw in it, without
doubt it would have been successful up to this day. But lt is open to the
retort— First pay the sailors the honest value of their labour. When you
have made it as well worth their while to serve you, as to work for other
employers, you will have no more difficulty than others have in obtaining
their services. To this there is no logical answer except"I will not":
and as people are now not only ashamed, but are not desirous, to rob the
labourer of his hire, impressment is no longer advocated. Those who attempt
to force women into marriage by closing all other doors against them, lay
themselves open to a similar retort. If they mean what they say, their
opinion must evidently be, that men do not render the married condition
so desirable to women, as to induce them to accept it for its own recommendations.
It is not a sign of one's thinking the boon one offers very attractive,
when one allows only Hobson's choice, "that or none. " And here, I believe,
is the clue to the feelings of those men, who have a real antipathy to
the equal freedom of women. I believe they are afraid, not lest women should
be unwilling to marry, for I do not think that anyone in reality has that
apprehension; but lest they should insist that marriage should be on equal
conditions; lest all women of spirit and capacity should prefer doing almost
anything else, not in their own eyes degrading, rather than marry, when
marrying is giving themselves a master, and a master too of all their earthly
possessions. And truly, if this consequence were necessarily incident to
marriage, I think that the apprehension would be very well founded. I agree
in thinking it probable that few women, capable of anything else, would,
unless under an irresistible entrainement, rendering them for the time
insensible to anything but itself, choose such a lot, when any other means
were open to them of filling a conventionally honourable place in life:
and if men are determined that the law of marriage shall be a law of despotism,
they are quite right, in point of mere policy, in leaving to women only
Hobson's choice. But, in that case, all that has been done in the modern
world to relax the chain on the minds of women, has been a mistake. They
never should have been allowed to receive a literary education. Women who
read, much more women who write, are, in the existing constitution of things,
a contradiction and a disturbing element: and it was wrong to bring women
up with any acquirements but those of an odalisque, or of a domestic servant.
NOTES
[1] Title-page of Mme de Stael's Delphine.
CHAPTER II
It will be well to commence the detailed discussion of the subject by
the particular branch of it to which the course of our observations has
led us: the conditions which the laws of this and all other countries annex
to the marriage contract. Marriage being the destination appointed by society
for women, the prospect they are brought up to, and the object which it
is intended should be sought by all of them, except those who are too little
attractive to be chosen by any man as his companion; one might have supposed
that everything would have been done to make this condition as eligible
to them as possible, that they might have no cause to regret being denied
the option of any other. Society, however, both in this, and, at first,
in all other cases, has preferred to attain its object by foul rather than
fair means: but this is the only case in which it has substantially persisted
in them even to the present day. Originally women were taken by force,
or regularly sold by their father to the husband. Until a late period in
European history, the father had the power to dispose of his daughter in
marriage at his own will and pleasure, without any regard to hers. The
Church, indeed, was so far faithful to a better morality as to require
a formal "yes" from the woman at the marriage ceremony; but there was nothing
to show that the consent was other than compulsory; and it was practically
impossible for the girl to refuse compliance if the father persevered,
except perhaps when she might obtain the protection of religion by a determined
resolution to take monastic vows. After marriage, the man had anciently
(but this was anterior to Christianity) the power of life and death over
his wife. She could invoke no law against him; he was her sole tribunal
and law. For a long time he could repudiate her, but she had no corresponding
power in regard to him. By the old laws of England, the husband was called
the lord of the wife; he was literally regarded as her sovereign, inasmuch
that the murder of a man by his wife was called treason (petty as distinguished
from high treason), and was more cruelly avenged than was usually the case
with high treason, for the penalty was burning to death. Because these
various enormities have fallen into disuse (for most of them were never
formally abolished, or not until they had long ceased to be practised)
men suppose that all is now as it should be in regard to the marriage contract;
and we are continually told that civilisation and Christianity have restored
to the woman her just rights. Meanwhile the wife is the actual bond servant
of her husband: no less so, as far as legal obligation goes, than slaves
commonly so called. She vows a livelong obedience to him at the altar,
and is held to it all through her life by law. Casuists may say that the
obligation of obedience stops short of participation in crime, but it certainly
extends to everything else. She can do no act whatever but by his permission,
at least tacit. She can acquire no property but for him; the instant it
becomes hers, even if by inheritance, it becomes ipso facto his. In this
respect the wife's position under the common law of England is worse than
that-of slaves in the laws of many countries: by the Roman law, for example,
a slave might have his peculium, which to a certain extent the law guaranteed
to him for his exclusive use. The higher classes in this country have given
an analogous advantage to their women, through special contracts setting
aside the law, by conditions of pin-money, etc. : since parental feeling
being stronger with fathers than the class feeling of their own sex, a
father generally prefers his own daughter to a son-in-law who is a stranger
to him. By means of settlements, the rich usually contrive to withdraw
the whole or part of the inherited property of the wife from the absolute
control of the husband: but they do not succeed in keeping it under her
own control; the utmost they can do only prevents the husband from squandering
it, at the same time debarring the rightful owner from its use. The property
itself is out of the reach of both; and as to the income derived from it,
the form of settlement most favourable to the wife (that called "to her
separate use") only precludes the husband from receiving it instead of
her: it must pass through her hands, but if he takes it from her by personal
violence as soon as she receives it, he can neither be punished, nor compelled
to restitution. This is the amount of the protection which, under the laws
of this country, the most powerful nobleman can give to his own daughter
as respects her husband. In the immense majority of cases there is no settlement:
and the absorption of all rights, all property, as well as all freedom
of action, is complete. The two are called " one person in law, " for the
purpose of inferring that whatever is hers is his, but the parallel inference
is never drawn that whatever is his is hers; the maxim is not applied against
the man, except to make him responsible to third parties for her acts,
as a master is for the acts of his slaves or of his cattle. I am far from
pretending that wives are in general no better treated than slaves; but
no slave is a slave to the same lengths, and in so full a sense of the
word, as a wife is. Hardly any slave, except one immediately attached to
the master's person, is a slave at all hours and all minutes; in general
he has, like a soldier, his fixed task, and when it is done, or when he
is off duty, he disposes, within certain limits, of his own time, and has
a family life into which the master rarely intrudes. "Uncle Tom " under
his first master had his own life in his "cabin, " almost as much as any
man whose work takes him away from home, is able to have in his own family.
But it cannot be so with the wife. Above all, a female slave has (in Christian
countries) an admitted right, and is considered under a moral obligation,
to refuse to her master the last familiarity. Not so the wife: however
brutal a tyrant she may unfortunately be chained to—though she may know
that he hates her, though it may be his daily pleasure to torture her,
and though she may feel it impossible not to loathe him—he can claim from
her and enforce the lowest degradation of a human being, that of being
made the instrument of an animal function contrary to her inclinations.
While she is held in this worst description of slavery as to her own person,
what is her position in regard to the children in whom she and her master
have a joint interest? They are by law his children. He alone has any legal
rights over them. Not one act can she do towards or in relation to them,
except by delegation from him. Even after he is dead she is not their legal
guardian, unless he by will has made her so. He could even send them away
from her, and deprive her of the means of seeing or corresponding with
them, until this power was in some degree restricted by Serjeant Talfourd's
Act. This is her legal state. And from this state she has no means of withdrawing
herself. If she leaves her husband, she can take nothing with her, neither
her children nor anything which is rightfully her own. If he chooses, he
can compel her to return, by law, or by physical force; or he may content
himself with seizing for his own use anything which she may earn, or which
may be given to her by her relations. It is only legal separation by a
decree of a court of justice, which entitles her to live apart, without
being forced back into the custody of an exasperated jailer—or which empowers
her to apply any earnings to her own use, without fear that a man whom
perhaps she has not seen for twenty years will pounce upon her some day
and carry all off. This legal separation, until lately, the courts of justice
would only give at an expense which made it inaccessible to anyone out
of the higher ranks. Even now it is only given in cases of desertion, or
of the extreme of cruelty; and yet complaints are made every day that it
is granted too easily. Surely, if a woman is denied any lot in life but
that of being the personal body-servant of a despot, and is dependent for
everything upon the chance of finding one who may be disposed to make a
favourite of her instead of merely a drudge, it is a very cruel aggravation
of her fate that she should be allowed to try this chance only once. The
natural sequel and corollary from this state of things would be, that since
her all in life depends upon obtaining a good master, she should be allowed
to change again and again until she finds one. I am not saying that she
ought to be allowed this privilege. That is a totally different consideration.
The question of divorce, in the sense involving liberty of remarriage,
is one into which it is foreign to my purpose to enter. All I now say is,
that to those to whom nothing but servitude is allowed, the free choice
of servitude is the only, though a most insufficient, alleviation. Its
refusal completes the assimilation of the wife to the slave—and the slave
under not the mildest form of slavery: for in some slave codes the slave
could, under certain circumstances of ill usage, legally compel the master
to sell him. But no amount of ill usage, without adultery superadded, will
in England free a wife from her tormentor.
I have no desire to exaggerate, nor does the case stand in any need
of exaggeration. I have described the wife's legal position, not her actual
treatment. The laws of most countries are far worse than the people who
execute them, and many of them are only able to remain laws by being seldom
or never carried into effect. If married life were all that it might be
expected to be, looking to the laws alone, society would be a hell upon
earth. Happily there are both feelings and interests which in many men
exclude, and in most, greatly temper, the impulses and propensities which
lead to tyranny: and of those feelings, the tie which connects a man with
his wife affords, in a normal state of things, incomparably the strongest
example. The only tie which at all approaches to it. that between him and
his children, tends, in all save exceptional cases, to strengthen, instead
of conflicting with, the first. Because this is true; because men in general
do not inflict, nor women suffer, all the misery which could be inflicted
and suffered if the full power of tyranny with which the man is legally
invested were acted on; the defenders of the existing form of the institution
think that all its iniquity is justified, and that any complaint is merely
quarrelling with the evil which is the price paid for every great good.
But the mitigations in practice, which are compatible with maintaining
in full legal force this or any other kind of tyranny, instead of being
any apology for despotism, only serve to prove what power human nature
possesses of reacting against the vilest institutions, and with what vitality
the seeds of good as well as those of evil in human character diffuse and
propagate themselves. Not a word can be said for despotism in the family
which cannot be said for political despotism. Every absolute king does
not sit at his window to enjoy the groans of his tortured subjects, nor
strips them of their last rag and turns them out to shiver in the road
The despotism of Louis XVI was not the despotism of Philippe le Bel, or
of Nadir Shah, or of Caligula; but it was bad enough to justify the French
Revolution, and to palliate even its horrors. If an appeal be made to the
intense attachments which exist between wives and their husbands, exactly
as much may be said of domestic slavery. It was quite an ordinary fact
in Greece and Rome for slaves to submit to death by torture rather than
betray their masters. In the proscriptions of the Roman civil wars it was
remarked that wives and slaves were heroically faithful, sons very commonly
treacherous. Yet we know how cruelly many Romans treated their slaves.
But in truth these intense individual feelings nowhere rise to such a luxuriant
height as under the most atrocious institutions. It IS part of the irony
of life, that the strongest feelings of devoted gratitude of which human
nature seems to be susceptible, are called forth in human beings towards
those who, having the power entirely to crush their earthly existence,
voluntarily refrain from using that power. How great a place in most men
this sentiment fills, even in religious devotion, it would be cruel to
inquire. We daily see how much their gratitude to Heaven appears to be
stimulated by the contemplation of fellow-creatures to whom God has not
been so merciful as he has to themselves.
Whether the institution to be defended is slavery, political absolutism,
or the absolutism of the head of a family, we are always expected to judge
of it from its best instances; and we are presented with pictures of loving
exercise of authority on one side, loving submission to it on the other—superior
wisdom ordering all things for the greatest good of the dependents, and
surrounded by their smiles and benedictions. All this would be very much
to the purpose if anyone pretended that there are no such things as goodmen.
Who doubts that there may be great goodness, and great happiness, and great
affection, under the absolute government of a good man? Meanwhile, laws
and institutions require to be adapted, not to good men, but to bad. Marriage
is not an institution designed fora select few. Men are not required, as
a preliminary to the marriage ceremony, to prove by testimonials that they
are fit to be trusted with the exercise of absolute power. The tie of affection
and obligation to a wife and children is very strong with those whose general
social feelings are strong, and with many who are little sensible to any
other social ties; but there are all degrees of sensibility and insensibility
to it, as there are all grades of goodness and wickedness in men, down
to those whom no ties will bind, and on whom society has no action but
through its ultima ratio, the penalties of the law. In every grade of this
descending scale are men to whom are committed all the legal powers of
a husband. The vilest malefactor has some wretched woman tied to him, against
whom he can commit any atrocity except killing her, and, if tolerably cautious,
can do that without much danger of the legal penalty. And how many thousands
are there among the lowest classes in every country, who, without being
in a legal sense malefactors in any other respect, because in every other
quarter their aggressions meet with resistance, indulge the utmost habitual
excesses of bodily violence towards the unhappy wife, who alone, at least
of grown persons, can neither repel nor escape from their brutality; and
towards whom the excess of dependence inspires their mean and savage natures,
not with a generous forbearance, and a point of honour to behave well to
one whose lot in life is trusted entirely to their kindness, but on the
contrary with a notion that the law has delivered her to them as their
thing, to be used at their pleasure, and that they are not expected to
practise the consideration towards her which is required from them towards
everybody else. The law, which till lately left even these atrocious extremes
of domestic oppression practically unpunished, has within these few years
made some feeble attempts to repress them. But its attempts have done little,
and cannot be expected to do much, because it is contrary to reason and
experience to suppose that there can be any real check to brutality, consistent
with leaving the victim still in the power of the executioner. Until a
conviction for personal violence, or at all events a repetition of it after
a first conviction, entitles the woman ipso facto to a divorce, or at least
to a judicial separation, the attempt to repress these "aggravated assaults
" by legal penalties will break down for want of a prosecutor, or for want
of a witness.
When we consider how vast is the number of men, in any great country,
who are little higher than brutes, and that this never prevents them from
being able, through the law of marriage, to obtain a victim, the breadth
and depth of human misery caused in this shape alone by the abuse of the
institution swells to something appalling. Yet these are only the extreme
cases. They are the lowest abysses, but there is a sad succession of depth
after depth before reaching them. In domestic as in political tyranny,
the case of absolute monsters chiefly illustrates the institution by showing
that there is scarcely any horror which may not occur under it if the despot
pleases, and thus setting in a strong light what must be the terrible frequency
of things only a little less atrocious. Absolute fiends are as rare as
angels, perhaps rarer: ferocious savages, with occasional touches of humanity,
are however very frequent: and in the wide interval which separates these
from any worthy representatives of the human species, how many are the
forms and gradations of animalism and selfishness, often under an outward
varnish of civilisation and even cultivation, living at peace with the
law, maintaining a creditable appearance to all who are not under their
power, yet sufficient often to make the lives of all who are so, a torment
and a burthen to them ! It would be tiresome to repeat the commonplaces
about the unfitness of men in general for power, which, after the political
discussions of centuries, everyone knows by heart, were it not that hardly
anyone thinks of applying these maxims to the case in which above all others
they are applicable, that of power, not placed in the hands of a man here
and there, but offered to every adult male, down to the basest and most
ferocious. It is not because a man is not known to have broken any of the
Ten Commandments, or because he maintains a respectable character in his
dealings with those whom he cannot compel to have intercourse with him,
or because he does not fly out into violent bursts of ill-temper against
those who are not obliged to bear with him, that it is possible to surmise
of what sort his conduct will be in the unrestraint of home. Even the commonest
men reserve the violent, the sulky, the undisguisedly selfish side of their
character for those who have no power to withstand it. The relation of
superiors to dependents is the nursery of these vices of character, which,
wherever else they exist, are an overflowing from that source. A man who
is morose or violent to his equals, is sure to be one who has lived among
inferiors, whom he could frighten or worry into submission. If the family
in its best forms is, as it is often said to be, a school of sympathy,
tenderness, and loving forgetfulness of self, it is still oftener, as respects
its chief, a school of wilfulness, overbearingness, unbounded selfish indulgence,
and a double-dyed and idealised selfishness, of which sacrifice itself
is only a particular form: the care for the wife and children being only
care for them as parts of the man's own interests and belongings, and their
individual happiness being immolated in every shape to his smallest preferences.
What better is to be looked for under the existing form of the institution?
We know that the bad propensities of human nature are only kept within
bounds when they are allowed no scope for their indulgence. We know that
from impulse and habit, when not from deliberate purpose, almost everyone
to whom others yield, goes on encroaching upon them, until a point is reached
at which they are compelled to resist. Such being the common tendency of
human nature; the almost unlimited power which present social institutions
give to the man over at least one human being— the one with whom he resides,
and whom he has always present — this power seeks out and evokes the latent
germs of selfishness in the remotest corners of his nature—fans its faintest
sparks and smouldering embers—offers to him a licence for the indulgence
of those points of his original character which in all other relations
he would have found it necessary to repress and conceal, and the repression
of which would in time have become a second nature. I know that there is
another side to the question. I grant that the wife, if she cannot effectually
resist, can at least retaliate; she, too, can make the man's life extremely
uncomfortable, and by that power is able to carry many points which she
ought, and many which she ought not, to prevail in. But this instrument
of self-protection—which may be called the power of the scold, or the
shrewish sanction—has the fatal defect, that it avails most against the
least tyrannical superiors, and in favour of the least deserving dependents.
It is the weapon of irritable and self-willed women; of those who would
make the worst use of power if they themselves had it, and who generally
turn this power to a bad use. The amiable cannot use such an instrument,
the high minded disdain it. And on the other hand, the husbands against
whom it is used most effectively are the gentler and more inoffensive;
those who cannot be induced, even by provocation, to resort to any very
harsh exercise of authority. The wife's power of being disagreeable generally
only establishes a counter-tyranny, and makes victims in their turn chiefly
of those husbands who are least inclined to be tyrants.
What is it, then, which really tempers the corrupting effects of the
power, and makes it compatible with such amount of good as we actually
see? Mere feminine blandishments. though of great effect in individual
instances, have very little effect in modifying the general tendencies
of the situation; for their power only lasts while the woman is young and
attractive, often only while her charm is new, and not dimmed by familiarity;
and on many men they have not much influence at any time. The real mitigating
causes are, the personal affection which is the growth of time in so far
as the man's nature is susceptible of it and the woman's character sufficiently
congenial with his to excite it; their common interests as regards the
children, and their general community of interest as concerns third persons(to
which however there are very great limitations); the real importance of
the wife to his daily comforts and enjoyments, and the value he consequently
attaches to her on his personal account, which, in a man capable of feeling
for others, lays the foundation of caring for her on her own; and lastly,
the influence naturally acquired over almost all human beings by those
near to their persons (if not actually disagreeable to them): who, both
by their direct entreaties, and by the insensible contagion of their feelings
and dispositions, are often able, unless counteracted by some equally strong
personal influence, to obtain a degree of command over the conduct of the
superior, altogether excessive and unreasonable. Through these various
means, the wife frequently exercises even too much power over the man;
she is able to affect his conduct in things in which she may not be qualified
to influence it for good—in which her influence may be not only unenlightened,
but employed on the morally wrong side; and in which he would act better
if left to his own prompting. But neither in the affairs of families nor
in those of states is power a compensation for the loss of freedom. Her
power often gives her what she has no right to, but does not enable her
to assert her own rights. A Sultan's favourite slave has slaves under her,
over whom she tyrannises; but the desirable thing would be that she should
neither have slaves nor be a slave. By entirely sinking her own existence
in her husband; by having no will (or persuading him that she has no will)
but his, in anything which regards their joint relation, and by making
it the business of her life to work upon his sentiments, a wife may gratify
herself by influencing, and very probably perverting, his conduct, in those
of his external relations which she has never qualified herself to judge
of, or in which she is herself wholly influenced by some personal or other
partiality or prejudice. Accordingly, as things now are, those who act
most kindly to their wives, are quite as often made worse, as better, by
the wife's influence, in respect to all interests extending beyond the
family. She is taught that she has no business with things out of that
sphere; and accordingly she seldom has any honest and conscientious opinion
on them; and therefore hardly ever meddles with them for any legitimate
purpose, but generally for an interested one. She neither knows nor cares
which is the right side in politics, but she knows what will bring in money
or invitations, give her husband a title, her son a place, or her daughter
a good marriage.
But how, it will be asked, can any society exist without government?
In a family, as in a state, some one person must be the ultimate ruler.
Who shall decide when married people differ in opinion? Both cannot have
their way, yet a decision one way or the other must be come to.
It is not true that in all voluntary association between two people,
one of them must be absolute master: still less that the law must determine
which of them it shall be. The most frequent case of voluntary association,
next to marriage, is partnership in business: and it is not found or thought
necessary to enact that in every partnership, one partner shall have entire
control over the concern, and the others shall be bound to obey his orders.
No one would enter into partnership on terms which would subject him to
the responsibilities of a principal, with only the powers and privileges
of a clerk or agent. If the law dealt with other contracts as it does with
marriage, it would ordain that one partner should administer the common
business as if it was his private concern; that the others should have
only delegated powers; and that this one should be designated by some general
presumption of law, for example as being the eldest. The law never does
this: nor does experience show it to be necessary that any theoretical
inequality of power should exist between the partners, or that the partnership
should have any other conditions than what they may themselves appoint
by their articles of agreement. Yet it might seem that the exclusive power
might be conceded with less danger to the rights and interests of the inferior,
in the case of partnership than in that of marriage, since he is free to
cancel the power by withdrawing from the connexion. The wife has no such
power, and even if she had, it is almost always desirable that she should
try all measures before resorting to it.
It is quite true that things which have to be decided everyday, and
cannot adjust themselves gradually, or wait for a compromise, ought to
depend on one will; one person must have their sole control. But it does
not follow that this should always be the same person. The natural arrangement
is a division of powers between the two; each being absolute in the executive
branch of their own department, and any change of system and principle
requiring the consent of both. The division neither can nor should be pre-established
by the law, since it must depend on individual capacities and suitabilities.
If the two persons chose, they might pre-appoint it by the marriage contract,
as pecuniary arrangements are now often pre-appointed. There would seldom
be any difficulty in deciding such things by mutual consent, unless the
marriage was one of those unhappy ones in which all other things, as well
as this, become subjects of bickering and dispute. The division of rights
would naturally follow the division of duties and functions; and that is
already made by consent, or at all events not by law, but by general custom,
modified and modifiable at the pleasure of the persons concerned.
The real practical decision of affairs, to whichever may be given the
legal authority, will greatly depend, as it even now does, upon comparative
qualifications. The mere fact that he is usually the eldest, will in most
cases give the preponderance to the man; at least until they both attain
a time of life at which the difference in their years is of no importance.
There will naturally also be a more potential voice on the side, whichever
it is, that brings the means of support. Inequality from this source does
not depend on the law of marriage, but on the general conditions of human
society, as now constituted. The influence of mental superiority, either
general or special, and of superior decision of character, will necessarily
tell for much. It always does so at present. And this fact shows how little
foundation there is for the apprehension that the powers and responsibilities
of partners in life (as of partners in business), cannot be satisfactorily
apportioned by agreement between themselves. They always are so apportioned,
except in cases in which the marriage institution is a failure. Things
never come to an issue of downright power on one side, and obedience on
the other, except where the connexion altogether has been a mistake, and
it would be a blessing to both parties to be relieved from it. Some may
say that the very thing by which an amicable settlement of differences
becomes possible, is the power of legal compulsion known to be in reserve;
as people submit to an arbitration because there is a court of law in the
background, which they know that they can be forced to obey. But to make
the cases parallel, we must suppose that the rule of the court of law was,
not to try the cause, but to give judgment always for the same side, suppose
the defendant. If so, the amenability to it would be a motive with the
plaintiff to agree to almost any arbitration, but it would be just the
reverse with the defendant. The despotic power which the law gives to the
husband may be a reason to make the wife assent to any compromise by which
power is practically shared between the two, but it cannot be the reason
why the husband does. That there is always among decently conducted people
a practical compromise, though one of them at least is under no physical
or moral necessity of making it, shows that the natural motives which lead
to a voluntary adjustment of the united life of two persons in a manner
acceptable to both, do on the whole, excepting unfavourable cases, prevail.
The matter is certainly not improved by laying down as an ordinance of
law, that the superstructure of free government shall be raised upon a
legal basis of despotism on one side and subjection on the other, and that
every concession which the despot makes may, at his mere pleasure, and
without any warning, be recalled. Besides that no freedom is worth much
when held on so precarious a tenure, its conditions are not likely to be
the most equitable when the law throws so prodigious a weight into one
scale; when the adjustment rests between two persons one of whom is declared
to be entitled to everything, the other not only entitled to nothing except
during the good pleasure of the first, but under the strongest moral and
religious obligation not to rebel under any excess of oppression.
A pertinacious adversary, pushed to extremities, may say, that husbands
indeed are willing to be reasonable, and to make fair concessions to their
partners without being compelled to it, but that wives are not: that if
allowed any rights of their own, they will acknowledge no rights at all
in anyone else, and never will yield in anything, unless they can be compelled,
by the man's mere authority, to yield in everything. This would have been
said by many persons some generations ago, when satires on women were in
vogue, and men thought it a clever thing to insult women for being what
men made them. But it will be said by no one now who is worth replying
to. It is not the doctrine of the present day that women are less susceptible
of good feeling, and consideration for those with whom they are united
by the strongest ties, than men are. On the contrary, we are perpetually
told that women are better than men, by those who are totally opposed to
treating them as if they were as good; so that the saying has passed into
a piece of tiresome cant, intended to put a complimentary face upon an
injury, and resembling those celebrations of royal clemency which, according
to Gulliver, the king of Lilliput always prefixed to his most sanguinary
decrees. If women are better than men in anything, it surely is in individual
self-sacrifice for those of their own family. But I lay little stress on
this, so long as they are universally taught that they are born and created
for self-sacrifice. I believe that equality of rights would abate the exaggerated
self-abnegation which is the present artificial ideal of feminine character,
and that a good woman would not be more self-sacrificing than the best
man: but on the other hand, men would be much more unselfish and self-sacrificing
than at present, because they would no longer be taught to worship their
own will as such a grand thing that it is actually the law for another
rational being. There is nothing which men so easily learn as this self-worship:
all privileged persons, and all privileged classes, have had it. The more
we descend in the scale of humanity, the intenser it is; and most of all
in those who are not, and can never expect to be, raised above anyone except
an unfortunate wife and children. The honourable exceptions are proportionally
fewer than in the case of almost any other human infirmity. Philosophy
and religion, instead of keeping it in check, are generally suborned to
defend it; and nothing controls it but that practical feeling of the equality
of human beings, which is the theory of Christianity, but which Christianity
will never practically teach, while it sanctions institutions grounded
on an arbitrary preference of one human being over another.
There are, no doubt, women, as there are men, whom equality of consideration
will not satisfy; with whom there is no peace while any will or wish is
regarded but their own. Such persons are a proper subject for the law of
divorce. They are only fit to live alone, and no human beings ought to
be compelled to associate their lives with them. But the legal subordination
tends to make such characters among women more, rather than less, frequent.
If the man exerts his whole power, the woman is of course crushed: but
if she is treated with indulgence, and permitted to assume power, there
is no rule to set limits to her encroachments. The law, not determining
her rights, but theoretically allowing her none at all, practically declares
that the measure of what she has a right to, is what she can contrive to
get.
The equality of married persons before the law, is not only the sole
mode in which that particular relation can be made consistent with justice
to both sides, and conducive to the happiness of both, but it is the only
means of rendering the daily life of mankind, in any high sense, a school
of moral cultivation. Though the truth may not be felt or generally acknowledged
for generations to come, the only school of genuine moral sentiment is
society between equals. The moral education of mankind has hitherto emanated
chiefly from the law of force, and is adapted almost solely to the relations
which force creates. In the less advanced states of society, people hardly
recognise any relation with their equals. To be an equal is to be an enemy.
Society, from its highest place to its lowest, is one long chain, or rather
ladder, where every individual is either above or below his nearest neighbour,
and wherever he does not command he must obey. Existing moralities, accordingly,
are mainly fitted to a relation of command and obedience. Yet command and
obedience are but unfortunate necessities of human life: society in equality
is its normal state. Already in modern life, and more and more as it progressively
improves, command and obedience become exceptional facts in life, equal
association its general rule. The morality of the first ages rested on
the obligation to submit to power; that of the ages next following, on
the right of the weak to the forbearance and protection of the strong.
How much longer is one form of society and life to content itself with
the morality made for another ? We have had the morality of submission,
and the morality of chivalry and generosity; the time is now come for the
morality of justice. Whenever, in former ages, any approach has been made
to society in equality, Justice has asserted its claims as the foundation
of virtue. It was thus in the free republics of antiquity. But even in
the best of these, the equals were limited to the free male citizens; slaves,
women, and the unenfranchised residents were under the law of force. The
joint influence of Roman civilisation and of Christianity obliterated these
distinctions, and in theory (if only partially in practice) declared the
claims of the human being, as such, to be paramount to those of sex, class,
or social position. The barriers which had begun to be levelled were raised
again by the northern conquests; and the whole of modern history consists
of the slow process by which they have since been wearing away. We are
entering into an order of things in which justice will again be the primary
virtue; grounded as before on equal, but now also on sympathetic association;
having its root no longer in the instinct of equals for self protection,
but in a cultivated sympathy between them; and no one being now left out,
but an equal measure being extended to all. It is no novelty that mankind
do not distinctly foresee their own changes, and that their sentiments
are adapted to past, not to coming ages. To see the futurity of the species
has always been the privilege of the intellectual elite, or of those who
have learnt from them; to have the feelings of that futurity has been the
distinction, and usually the martyrdom, of a still rarer elite. Institutions,
books, education, society, all go on training human beings for the old,
long after the new has come; much more when it is only coming. But the
true virtue of human beings is fitness to live together as equals; claiming
nothing for themselves but what they as freely concede to everyone else;
regarding command of any kind as an exceptional necessity, and in all cases
a temporary one; and preferring, whenever possible, the society of those
with whom leading and following can be alternate and reciprocal. To these
virtues, nothing in life as at present constituted gives cultivation by
exercise. The family is a school of despotism, in which the virtues of
despotism, but also its vices, are largely nourished. Citizenship, in free
countries, is partly a school of society in equality; but citizenship fills
only a small place in modern life, and does not come near the daily habits
or inmost sentiments. The family, justly constituted, would be the real
school of the virtues of freedom. It is sure to be a sufficient one of
everything else. It will always be a school of obedience for the children,
of command for the parents. What is needed is, that it should be a school
of sympathy in equality, of living together in love, without power on one
side or obedience on the other. This it ought to be between the parents.
It would then be an exercise of those virtues which each requires to fit
them for all other association, and a model to the children of the feelings
and conduct which their temporary training by means of obedience is designed
to render habitual, and therefore natural, to them. The moral training
of mankind will never be adapted to the conditions of the life for which
all other human progress is a preparation, until they practise in the family
the same moral rule which is adapted to the normal constitution of human
society. Any sentiment of freedom which can exist in a man whose nearest
and dearest intimacies, are with those of whom he is absolute master, is
not the genuine or Christian love of freedom, but, what the love of freedom
generally was in the ancients and in the middle ages—-an intense feeling
of the dignity and importance of his own personality; making him disdain
a yoke for himself, of which he has no abhorrence whatever in the abstract,
but which he is abundantly ready to impose on others for his own interest
or glorification.
I readily admit (and it is the very foundation of my hopes) that numbers
of married people even under the present law (in the higher classes of
England probably a great majority), live in the spirit of a just law of
equality. Laws never would be improved, if there were not numerous persons
whose moral sentiments are better than the existing laws. Such persons
ought to support the principles here advocated; of which the only object
is to make all other married couples similar to what these are now. But
persons even of considerable moral worth, unless they are also thinkers,
are very ready to believe that laws or practices, the evils of which they
have not personally experienced, do not produce any evils, but (if seeming
to be generally approved of) probably do good, and that it is wrong to
object to them. It would, however, be a great mistake in such married people
to suppose, because the legal conditions of the tie which unites them do
not occur to their thoughts once in a twelve month, and because they live
and feel in all respects as if they were legally equals, that the same
is the case with all other married couples, wherever the husband is not
a notorious ruffian. To suppose this, would be to show equal ignorance
of human nature and of fact. The less fit a man is for the possession of
power—the less likely to be allowed to exercise it over any person with
that person's voluntary consent—the more does he hug himself in the consciousness
of the power the law gives him, exact its legal rights to the utmost point
which custom (the custom of men like himself) will tolerate, and take pleasure
in using the power, merely to enliven the agreeable sense of possessing
it. What is more; in the most naturally brutal and morally uneducated part
of the lower classes, the legal slavery of the woman, and something in
the merely physical subjection to their will as an instrument, causes them
to feel a sort of disrespect and contempt towards their own wife which
they do not feel towards any other woman, or any other human being, with
whom they come in contact; and which makes her seem to them an appropriate
subject for any kind of indignity. Let an acute observer of the signs of
feeling, who has the requisite opportunities, judge for himself whether
this is not the case: and if he finds that it is, let him not wonder at
any amount of disgust and indignation that can be felt against institutions
which lead naturally to this depraved state of the human mind.
We shall be told, perhaps, that religion imposes the duty of obedience;
as every established fact which is too bad to admit of any other defence,
is always presented to us as an injunction of religion. The Church, it
is very true, enjoins it in her formularies, but it would be difficult
to derive any such injunction from Christianity. We are told that St. Paul
said, "Wives, obey your husbands": but he also said, "Slaves, obey your
masters. " It was not St. Paul's business, nor was it consistent with his
object, the propagation of Christianity, to incite anyone to rebellion
against existing laws. The Apostle's acceptance of all social institutions
as he found them, is no more to be construed as a disapproval of attempts
to improve them at the proper time, than his declaration, "The powers that
be are ordained of God, " gives his sanction to military despotism, and
to that alone, as the Christian form of political government, or commands
passive obedience to it. To pretend that Christianity was intended to stereotype
existing forms of government and society, and protect them against change,
is to reduce it to the level of Islamism or of Brahminism. It is precisely
because Christianity has not done this, that it has been the religion of
the progressive portion of mankind, and Islamism, Brahminism, etc. have
been those of the stationary portions; or rather (for there is no such
thing as a really stationary society) of the declining portions. There
have been abundance of people, in all ages of Christianity, who tried to
make it something of the same kind; to convert us into a sort of Christian
Mussulmans, with the Bible for a Koran, prohibiting all improvement: and
great has been their power, and many have had to sacrifice their lives
in resisting them. But they have been resisted, and the resistance has
made us what we are, and will yet make us what we are to be.
After what has been said respecting the obligation of obedience, it
is almost superfluous to say anything concerning the more special point
included in the general one—a woman's right to her own property; for I
need not hope that this treatise can make any impression upon those who
need anything to convince them that a woman's inheritance or gains ought
to be as much her own after marriage as before. The rule is simple: whatever
would be the husband's or wife's if they were not married, should be under
their exclusive control during marriage; which need not interfere with
the power to tie up property by settlement, in order to preserve it for
children. Some people are sentimentally shocked at the idea of a separate
interest in money matters as inconsistent with the ideal fusion of two
lives into one. For my own part, I am one of the strongest supporters of
community of goods, when resulting from an entire unity of feeling in the
owners, which makes all things common between them. But I have no relish
for a community of goods resting on the doctrine, that what is mine is
yours, but what is yours is not mine; and I should prefer to decline entering
into such a compact with anyone, though I were myself the person to profit
by it.
This particular injustice and oppression to women, which is, to common
apprehensions, more obvious than all the rest, admits of remedy without
interfering with any other mischiefs: and there can belittle doubt that
it will be one of the earliest remedied. Already, in many of the new and
several of the old States of the American Confederation, provisions have
been inserted even in the written Constitutions, securing to women equality
of rights in this respect: and thereby improving materially the position,
in the marriage relation, of those women at least who have property, by
leaving them one instrument of power which they have not signed away; and
preventing also the scandalous abuse of the marriage institution, which
is perpetrated when a man entraps a girl into marrying him without a settlement,
for the sole purpose of getting possession of her money. When the support
of the family depends, not on property, but on earnings, the common arrangement,
by which the man earns the income and the wife superintends the domestic
expenditure, seems to me in general the most suitable division of labour
between the two persons. If, in addition to the physical suffering of bearing
children, and the whole responsibility of their care and education in early
years, the wife undertakes the careful and economical application of the
husband's earnings to the general comfort of the family; she takes not
only her fair share, but usually the larger share, of the bodily and mental
exertion required by their joint existence. If she undertakes any additional
portion, it seldom relieves her from this, but only prevents her from performing
it properly. The care which she is herself disabled from taking of the
children and the household, nobody else takes; those of the children who
do not die, grow up as they best can, and the management of the household
is likely to be so bad, as even in point of economy to be a great drawback
from the value of the wife's earnings. In another wise just state of things,
it is not, therefore, I think, a desirable custom, that the wife should
contribute by her labour to the income of the family. In an unjust state
of things, her doing so may be useful to her, by making her of more value
in the eyes of the man who is legally her master; but, on the other hand,
it enables him still farther to abuse his power, by forcing her to work,
and leaving the support of the family to her exertions, while he spends
most of his time in drinking and idleness. The power of earning is essential
to the dignity of a woman, if she has not independent property. But if
marriage were an equal contract, not implying the obligation of obedience;
if the connexion were no longer enforced to the oppression of those to
whom it is purely a mischief, but a separation, on just terms (I do not
now speak of a divorce), could be obtained by any woman who was morally
entitled to it; and if she would then find all honourable employments as
freely open to her as to men; it would not be necessary for her protection,
that during marriage she should make this particular use of her faculties.
Like a man when he chooses a profession, so, when a woman marries, it may
in general be understood that she makes choice of the management of a household,
and the bringing up of a family, as the first call upon her exertions,
during as many years of her life as may be required for the purpose; and
that she renounces, not all other objects and occupations, but all which
are not consistent with the requirements of this. The actual exercise,
in a habitual or systematic manner, of outdoor occupations, or such as
cannot be carried on at home, would by this principle be practically interdicted
to the greater number of married women. But the utmost latitude ought to
exist for the adaptation of general rules to individual suitabilities;
and there ought to be nothing to prevent faculties exceptionally adapted
to any other pursuit, from obeying their vocation notwithstanding marriage:
due provision being made for supplying otherwise any falling-short which
might become inevitable, in her full performance of the ordinary functions
of mistress of a family. These things, if once opinion were rightly directed
on the subject, might with perfect safety be left to be regulated by opinion,
without any interference of law.
CHAPTER III
On the other point which is involved in the just equality of women,
their admissibility to all the functions and occupations hitherto retained
as the monopoly of the stronger sex, I should anticipate no difficulty
in convincing anyone who has gone with me on the subject of the equality
of women in the family. I believe that their disabilities elsewhere are
only clung to in order to maintain their subordination in domestic life;
because the generality of the male sex cannot yet tolerate the idea of
living with an equal. Were it not for-that, I think that almost everyone,
in the existing state of opinion in politics and political economy, would
admit the injustice of excluding half the human race from the greater number
of lucrative occupations, and from almost all high social functions; ordaining
from their birth either that they are not, and cannot by any possibility
become, fit for employments which are legally open to the stupidest and
basest of the other sex, or else that however fit they may be, those employments
shall be interdicted to them, in order to be preserved for the exclusive
benefit of males. In the last two centuries, when (which was seldom the
case) any reason beyond the mere existence of the fact was thought to be
required to justify the disabilities of women, people seldom assigned as
a reason their inferior mental capacity; which, in times when there was
a real trial of personal faculties (from which all women were not excluded)
in the struggles of public life, no one really believed in. The reason
given in those days was not women's unfitness, but the interest of society,
by which was meant the interest of men: just as the raison d 'etat, meaning
the convenience of the government, and the support of existing authority,
was deemed a sufficient explanation and excuse for the most flagitious
crimes. In the present day, power holds a smoother language, and whomsoever
it oppresses, always pretends to do so for their own good: accordingly,
when anything is forbidden to women, it is thought necessary to say, and
desirable to believe, that they are incapable of doing it, and that they
depart from their real path of success and happiness when they aspire to
it. But to make this reason plausible (I do not say valid), those by whom
it is urged must be prepared to carry it to a much greater length than
anyone ventures to do in the face of present experience. It is not sufficient
to maintain that women on the average are less gifted then men on the average,
with certain of the higher mental faculties, or that a smaller number of
women than of men are fit for occupations and functions of the highest
intellectual character. It is necessary to maintain that no women at all
are fit for them, and that the most eminent women arc inferior in mental
faculties to the most mediocre of the men on whom those functions at present
devolve. For if the performance of the function is decided either by competition,
or by any mode of choice which secures regard to the public interest, there
needs be no apprehension that any important employments will fall into
the hands of women inferior to average men, or to the average of their
male competitors. The only result would be that there would be fewer women
than men in such employments; a result certain to happen in any case, if
only from the preference always likely to be felt by the majority of women
for the one vocation in which there is nobody to compete with them. Now,
the most determined depreciator of women will not venture to deny, that
when we add the experience of recent times to that of ages past, women,
and not a few merely, but many women, have proved themselves capable of
everything, perhaps without a single exception, which is done by men, and
of doing it successfully and creditably. The utmost that can be said is,
that there arc many things which none of them have succeeded in doing as
well as they have been done by some men—many in which they have not reached
the very highest rank. But there are extremely few, dependent only on mental
faculties, in which they have not attained the rank next to the highest.
Is not this enough, and much more than enough, to make it a tyranny to
them, and a detriment to society, that they should not be allowed to compete
with men for the exercise of these functions ? Is it not a mere truism
to say, that such functions are often filled by men far less fit for them
than numbers of women, and who would be beaten by women in any fair field
of competition? What difference does it make that there may be men somewhere,
fully employed about other things, who may be still better qualified for
the things in question than these women? Does not this take place in all
competitions? Is there so great a superfluity of men fit for high duties,
that society can afford to reject the service of any competent person?
Are we so certain of always finding a man made to our hands for any duty
or function of social importance which falls vacant, that we lose nothing
by putting a ban upon one half of mankind, and refusing beforehand to make
their faculties available, however distinguished they may be? And even
if we could do without them, would it be consistent with justice to refuse
to them their fair share of honour and distinction, or to deny to them
the equal moral right of all human beings to choose their occupation (short
of injury to others) according to their own preferences, at their own risk?
Nor is the injustice confined to them: it is shared by those who are in
a position to benefit by their services. To ordain that any kind of persons
shall not be physicians, or shall not be advocates, or shall not be Members
of Parliament, is to injure not them only, but all who employ physicians
or advocates, or elect Members of Parliament, and who are deprived of the
stimulating effect of greater competition on the exertions of the competitors,
as well as restricted to a narrower range of individual choice.
It will perhaps be sufficient if I confine myself, in the details of
my argument, to functions of a public nature: since, if I am successful
as to those, it probably will be readily granted that women should be admissible
to all other occupations to which it is at all material whether they are
admitted or not. And here let me begin by marking out one function, broadly
distinguished from all others, their right to which is entirely independent
of any question which can be raised concerning their faculties. I mean
the suffrage, both parliamentary and municipal. The right to share in the
choice of those who are to exercise a public trust, is altogether a distinct
thing from that of competing for the trust itself. If no one could vote
for a Member of Parliament who was not fit to be a candidate, the government
would be a narrow oligarchy indeed. To have a voice in choosing those by
whom one is to be governed, is a means of self-protection due to everyone,
though he were to remain for ever excluded from the function of governing:
and that women are considered fit to have such a choice, may be presumed
from the fact, that the law already gives it to women in the most important
of all cases to themselves: for the choice of the man who is to govern
a woman to the end of life, is always supposed to be voluntarily made by
herself. In the case of election to public trusts, it is the business of
constitutional law to surround the right of suffrage with all needful securities
and limitations; but whatever securities are sufficient in the case of
the male sex, no others need be required in the case of women. Under whatever
conditions, and within whatever limits, men are admitted to the suffrage,
there is not a shadow of justification for not admitting women under the
same. The majority of the women of any class are not likely to differ in
political opinion from the majority of the men of the same class, unless
the question be one in which the interests of women, as such, are in some
way involved; and if they are so, women require the suffrage, as their
guarantee of just and equal consideration. This ought to be obvious even
to those who coincide in no other of the doctrines for which I contend.
Even if every woman were a wife, and if every wife ought to be a slave,
all the more would these slaves stand in need of legal protection: and
we know what legal protection the slaves have, where the laws are made
by their masters.
With regard to the fitness of women, not only to participate in elections,
but themselves to hold offices or practise professions involving important
public responsibilities; I have already observed that this consideration
is not essential to the practical question in dispute: since any woman,
who succeeds n an open profession, proves by that very fact that she is
qualified for it. And in the case of public offices, if the political system
of the country is such as to exclude unfit men, it will equally exclude
unfit women: while if it is not, there is no additional evil in the fact
that the unfit persons whom it admits may be either women or men. As long
therefore as it is acknowledged that even a few women may be fit for these
duties, the laws which shut the door on those exceptions cannot bc justified
by any opinion which can be held respecting the capacities of women in
general. But, though this last consideration is not essential, it is far
from being irrelevant. An unprejudiced view of it gives additional strength
to the arguments against the disabilities of women, and reinforces them
by high considerations of practical utility.
Let us first make entire abstraction of all psychological considerations
tending to show, that any of the mental differences supposed to exist between
women and men are but the natural effect of the differences in their education
and circumstances, and indicate no radical difference, far less radical
inferiority, of nature. Let us consider women only as they already are,
or as they are known to have been; and the capacities which they have already
practically shown. What they have done, that at least, if nothing else,
it is proved that they can do. When we consider how sedulously they are
all trained away from, instead of being trained towards, any of the occupations
or objects reserved for men, it is evident that I am taking a very humble
ground for them, when I rest their case on what they have actually achieved.
For, in this case, negative evidence is worth little,-while any positive
evidence is conclusive. It cannot be inferred to be impossible that a woman
should be a Homer, or an Aristotle, or a Michael Angelo, or a Beethoven,
because no woman has yet actually produced works comparable to theirs in
any of those lines of excellence. This negative fact at most leaves the
question uncertain, and open to psychological discussion. But it is quite
certain that a woman can be a Queen Elizabeth, or a Deborah, or a Joan
of Arc, since this is not inference, but fact. Now it is a curious consideration,
that the only things which the existing law excludes women from doing,
are the things which they have proved that they are able to do. There is
no law to prevent a woman from having written all the plays of Shakespeare,
or composed all the operas of Mozart. But Queen Elizabeth or Queen Victoria,
had they not inherited the throne, could not have been entrusted with the
smallest of the political duties, of which the former showed herself equal
to the greatest.
If anything conclusive could be inferred from experience, without psychological
analysis, it would be that the things which women are not allowed to do
are the very ones for which they are peculiarly qualified; since their
vocation for government has made its way, and become conspicuous, through
the very few opportunities which have been given; while in the lines of
distinction which apparently were freely open to them, they have by no
means so eminently distinguished themselves.
We know how small a number of reigning queens history presents, in comparison
with that of kings. of this smaller number a far larger proportion have
shown talents for rule; though many of them have occupied the throne in
difficult periods. It is remarkable, too, that they have, in a great number
of instances, been distinguished by merits the most opposite to the imaginary
and conventional character of women: they have been as much remarked for
the firmness and vigour of their rule, as for its intelligence. When, to
queens and empresses, we add regents, and viceroys of provinces, the list
of women who have been eminent rulers of mankind swells to a great length.[1]
This fact is so undeniable, that someone, long ago, tried to retort the
argument, and turned the admitted truth into an additional insult, by saying
that queens are better than kings, because under kings women govern, but
under queens, men.
It may seem a waste of reasoning to argue against a bad joke; but such
things do affect people's minds; and I have heard men quote this saying,
with an air as if they thought that there was something in it. At any rate,
it will serve as anything, else for a starting-point in discussion. I say,
then, that it is not true that under kings, women govern. Such cases are
entirely exceptional: and weak kings have quite as often governed ill through
the influence of male favourites, as of female. When a king is governed
by a woman merely through his amatory propensities, good government is
not probable, though even then there are exceptions. But French history
counts two kings who have voluntarily given the direction of affairs during
many years, the one to his mother, the other to his sister: one of them,
Charles VIII, was a mere boy, but in doing so he followed the intentions
of his father Louis XI, the ablest monarch of his age. The other, Saint
Louis, was the best, and one of the most vigorous rulers, since the time
of Charlemagne. Both these princesses ruled in a manner hardly equalled
by any prince among their contemporaries. The Emperor Charles the Fifth,
the most politic prince of his time, who had as great a number of able
men in his service as a ruler ever had, and was one of the least likely
of all sovereigns to sacrifice his interest to personal feelings, made
two princesses of his family successively Governors of the Netherlands,
and kept one or other of them in that post during his whole life (they
were afterwards succeeded by a third). Both ruled very successfully, and
one of them, Margaret of Austria, as one of the ablest politicians of the
age. So much for one side of the question. Now as to the other. When it
is said that under queens men govern, is the same meaning to be understood
as when kings are said to be governed by women ? Is it meant that queens
choose as their instruments of government, the associates of their personal
pleasures? The case is rare even with those who are as unscrupulous on
the latter point as Catherine II: and it is not in these cases that the
good government, alleged to arise from male influence, is to be found.
If it be true, then, that the administration is in the hands of better
men under a queen than under an average king, it must be that queens have
a superior capacity for choosing them; and women must be better qualified
than men both for the position of sovereign, and for that of chief minister;
for the principal business of a Prime Minister is not to govern in person,
but to find the fittest persons to conduct every department of public affairs.
The more rapid insight into character, which is one of the admitted points
of superiority in women over men, must certainly make them, with anything
like parity of qualifications in other respects, more apt than men in that
choice of instruments, which is nearly the most important business of everyone
who has to do with governing mankind. Even the unprincipled Catherine de
Medici could feel the value of a Chancellor de l'Hopital. But it is also
true that most great queens have been great by their own talents for government,
and have been well served precisely for that reason. They retained the
supreme direction of affairs in their own hands: and if they listened to
good advisers, they gave by that fact the strongest proof that their judgment
fitted them for dealing with the great questions of government.
Is it reasonable to think that those who are fit for the greater functions
of politics, are incapable of qualifying themselves for the less? Is there
any reason in the nature of things, that the wives and sisters of princes
should, whenever called on, be found as competent as the princes themselves
to their business, but that the wives and sisters of statesmen, and administrators,
and directors of companies, and managers of public institutions, should
be unable to do what is done by their brothers and husbands? The real reason
is plain enough; it is that princesses, being more raised above the generality
of men by their rank than placed below them by their sex, have never been
taught that it was improper for them to concern themselves with politics;
but have been allowed to feel the liberal interest natural to any cultivated
human being, in the great transactions which took place around them, and
in which they might be called on to take a part. The ladies of reigning
families are the only women who are allowed the same range of interests
and freedom of development as men; and it is precisely in their case that
there is not found to be any inferiority. Exactly where and in proportion
as women's capacities for government have been tried, in that proportion
have they been found adequate.
This fact is in accordance with the best general conclusions which the
world's imperfect experience seems as yet to suggest, concerning the peculiar
tendencies and aptitudes characteristic of women, as women have hitherto
been. I do not say, as they will continue to be; for, as I have already
said more than once, I consider it presumption in anyone to pretend to
decide what women are or are not, can or cannot be, by natural constitution.
They have always hitherto been kept, as far as regards spontaneous development,
in so unnatural a state, that their nature cannot but have been greatly
distorted and disguised; and no one can safely pronounce that if women's
nature were left to choose its direction as freely as men's, and if no
artificial bent were attempted to be given to it except that required by
the conditions of human society, and given to both sexes alike, there would
be any material difference, or perhaps any difference at all, in the character
and capacities which would unfold themselves. I shall presently show, that
even the least contestable of the differences which now exist, are such
as may very well have been produced merely by circumstances, without any
difference of natural capacity. But, looking at women as they are known
in experience, it may be said of them, with more truth than belongs to
most other generalisations on the subject, that the general bent of their
talents is towards the practical. This statement is conformable to all
the public history of women, in the present and the past. It is no less
borne out by common and daily experience. Let us consider the special nature
of the mental capacities most characteristic of a woman of talent. They
are all of a kind which fits them for practice, and makes them tend towards
it. What is meant by a woman's capacity of intuitive perception? It means,
a rapid and correct insight into present fact. It has nothing to do with
general principles. Nobody ever perceived a scientific law of nature by
intuition, nor arrived at a general rule of duty or prudence by it. These
are results of slow and careful collection and comparison of experience;
and neither the men nor the women. of intuition usually shine in this department,
unless, indeed, the experience necessary is such as they can acquire by
themselves. For what is called their intuitive sagacity makes them peculiarly
apt in gathering such general truths as can be collected from their individual
means of observation. When, consequently, they chance to be as well provided
as men are with the results of other people's experience, by reading and
education (I use the word chance advisedly, for, in respect to the knowledge
that tends to fit them for the greater concerns of life, the only educated
women are the self-educated) they are better furnished than men in general
with the essential requisites of skilful and successful practice. Men who
have been much taught, are apt to be deficient in the sense of present
fact; they do not see, in the facts which they are called upon to deal
with, what is really there, but what they have been taught to expect. This
is seldom the case with women of any ability. Their capacity of "intuition"
preserves them from it. With equality of experience and of general faculties,
a woman usually sees much more than a man of what is immediately before
her. Now this sensibility to the present, is the main quality on which
the capacity for practice, as distinguished from theory, depends. To discover
general principles, belongs to the speculative faculty: to discern and
discriminate the particular cases in which they are and are not applicable,
constitutes practical talent: and for this, women as they now are have
a peculiar aptitude. I admit that there can be no good practice without
principles, and that the predominant place which quickness of observation
holds among a woman's faculties, makes her particularly apt to build overhasty
generalisations upon her own observation; though at the same time no less
ready in rectifying those generalisations, as her observation takes a wider
range. But the corrective to this defect, is access to the experience of
the human race; general knowledge—exactly the thing which education can
best supply. A woman's mistakes are specifically those of a clever self-educated
man, who often sees what men trained in routine do not see, but falls into
errors for want of knowing things which have long been known. Of course
he has acquired much of the pre-existing knowledge, or he could not have
got on at all; but what he knows of it he has picked up in fragments and
at random, as women do.
But this gravitation of women's minds to the present, to the real, to
actual fact, while in its exclusiveness it is a source of errors, is also
a most useful counteractive of the contrary error. The principal and most
characteristic aberration of speculative minds as such, consists precisely
in the deficiency of this lively perception and ever-present sense of objective
fact. For want of this, they often not only overlook the contradiction
which outward facts oppose to their theories, but lose sight of the legitimate
purpose of speculation altogether, and let their speculative faculties
go astray into regions not peopled with real beings, animate or inanimate,
even idealised, but with personified shadows created by the illusions of
metaphysics or by the mere entanglement of words, and think these shadows
the proper objects of the highest, the most transcendant, philosophy. Hardly
anything can be of greater value to a man of theory and speculation who
employs himself not in collecting materials of knowledge by observation,
but in working them up by processes of thought into comprehensive truths
of science and laws of conduct, than to carry on his speculations in the
companionship, and under the criticism, of a really superior woman. There
is nothing comparable to it for keeping his thoughts within the limits
of real things, and the actual facts of nature. A woman seldom runs wild
after an abstraction. The habitual direction of her mind to dealing with
things as individuals rather than in groups, and (what is closely connected
with it) her more lively interest in the present feelings of persons, which
makes her consider first of all, in anything which claims to be applied
to practice, in what manner persons will be affected by it— these two
things make her extremely unlikely to put faith in any speculation which
loses sight of individuals, and deals with things as if they existed for
the benefit of some imaginary entity, some mere creation of the mind, not
resolvable into the feelings of living beings. Women's thoughts are thus
as useful in giving reality to those of thinking men, as men's thoughts
in giving width and largeness to those of women. In depth, as distinguished
from breadth, I greatly doubt if even now, women, compared with men, are
at any disadvantage.
If the existing mental characteristics of women are thus valuable even
in aid of speculation, they are still more important, when speculation
has done its work, for carrying out the results of speculation into practice.
For the reasons already given, women are comparatively unlikely to fall
into the common error of men, that of sticking to their rules in a case
whose specialities either take it out of the class to which the rules are
applicable, or require a special adaptation of them. Let us now consider
another of the admitted superiorities of clever women, greater quickness
of apprehension. Is not this preeminently a quality which fits a person
for practice ? In action, everything continually depends upon deciding
promptly. In speculation, nothing does. A mere thinker can wait, can take
time to consider, can collect additional evidence; he is not obliged to
complete his philosophy at once, lest the opportunity should go by. The
power of drawing the best conclusion possible from insufficient data is
not indeed useless in philosophy; the construction of a provisional hypothesis
consistent with all known facts is often the needful basis for further
inquiry. But this faculty is rather serviceable in philosophy, than the
main qualification for it: and, for the auxiliary as well as for the main
operation, the philosopher can allow himself any time he pleases. He is
in no need of the capacity of doing rapidly what he does; what he rather
needs is patience, to work on slowly until imperfect lights have become
perfect, and a conjecture has ripened into a theorem. For those, on the
contrary, whose business is with the fugitive and perishable—with individual
facts, not kinds of facts—rapidity of thought is a qualification next
only in importance to the power of thought itself. He who has not his faculties
under immediate command, in the contingencies of action, might as well
not have them at all. He may be fit to criticise, but he is not fit to
act. Now it is in this that women, and the men who are most like women,
confessedly excel. The other sort of man, however pre-eminent may be his
faculties, arrives slowly at complete command of them: rapidity of judgment
and promptitude of judicious action, even in the things he knows best,
are the gradual and late result of strenuous effort grown into habit.
It will be said, perhaps, that the greater nervous susceptibility of
women is a disqualification for practice, in anything but domestic life,
by rendering them mobile, changeable, too vehemently under the influence
of the moment, incapable of dogged perseverance, unequal and uncertain
in the power of using their faculties. I think that these phrases sum up
the greater part of the objections commonly made to the fitness of women
for the higher class of serious business. Much of all this is the mere
overflow of nervous energy run to waste, and would cease when the energy
was directed to a definite end. Much is also the result of conscious or
unconscious cultivation; as we see by the almost total disappearance of
"hysterics" and fainting-fits, since they have gone out of fashion. Moreover,
when people are brought up, like many women of the higher classes (though
less so in our own country than any other), a kind of hot-house plants,
shielded from the wholesome vicissitudes of air and temperature, and untrained
in any of the occupations and exercises which give stimulus and development
to the circulatory and muscular system, while their nervous system, especially
in its emotional department, is kept in unnaturally active play; it is
no wonder if those of them who do not die of consumption, grow up with
constitutions liable to derangement from slight causes, both internal and
external, and without stamina to support any task, physical or mental,
requiring continuity of effort. But women brought up to work for their
livelihood show none of these morbid characteristics, unless indeed they
are chained to an excess of sedentary work in confined and unhealthy rooms.
Women who in their early years have shared in the healthful physical education
and bodily freedom of their brothers, and who obtain a sufficiency of pure
air and exercise in after-life, very rarely have any excessive susceptibility
of nerves which can disqualify them for active pursuits. There is indeed
a certain proportion of persons, in both sexes, in whom an unusual degree
of nervous sensibility is constitutional, and of so marked a character
as to be the feature of their organisation which exercises the greatest
influence over the whole character of the vital phenomena. This constitution,
like other physical conformations, is hereditary, and is transmitted to
sons as well as daughters; but it is possible, and probable, that the nervous
temperament (as it is called) is inherited by a greater number of women
than of men. We will assume this as a fact: and let me then ask, are men
of nervous temperament found to be unfit for the duties and pursuits usually
followed by men? If not, why should women of the same temperament be unfit
for them? The peculiarities of the temperament are, no doubt, within certain
limits, an obstacle to success in some employments, though an aid to it
in others. But when the occupation is suitable to the temperament, and
sometimes even when it is unsuitable, the most brilliant examples of success
are continually given by the men of high nervous sensibility. They are
distinguished in their practical manifestations chiefly by this, that being
susceptible of a higher degree of excitement than those of another physical
constitution, their powers when excited differ more than in the case of
other people, from those shown in their ordinary state: they are raised,
as it were, above themselves, and do things with ease which they are wholly
incapable of at other times. But this lofty excitement is not, except in
weak bodily constitutions, a mere flash, which passes away immediately,
leaving no permanent traces, and incompatible with persistent and steady
pursuit of an object. It is the character of the nervous temperament to
be capable of sustained excitement, holding out through long-continued
efforts. It is what is meant by spirit. It is what makes the high-bred
racehorse run without slackening speed till he drops down dead. It is what
has enabled so many delicate women to maintain the most sublime constancy
not only at the stake, but through a long preliminary succession of mental
and bodily tortures. It is evident that people of this temperament are
particularly apt for what may be called the executive department of the
leadership of mankind. They are the material of great orators, great preachers,
impressive diffusers of moral influences. Their constitution might be deemed
less favourable to the qualities required from a statesman in the cabinet,
or from a judge. It would be so, if the consequence necessarily followed
that because people are excitable they must always be in a state of excitement.
But this is wholly a question of training. Strong feeling is the instrument
and element of strong self-control: but it requires to be cultivated in
that direction. When it is, it forms not the heroes of impulse only, but
those also of self-conquest. History and experience prove that the most
passionate characters are the most fanatically rigid in their feelings
of duty, when their passion has been trained to act in that direction.
The judge who gives a just decision in a case where his feelings are intensely
interested on the other side, derives from that same strength of feeling
the determined sense of the obligation of justice, which enables him to
achieve this victory over himself. The capability of that lofty enthusiasm
which takes the human being out of his every-day character, reacts upon
the daily character itself. His aspirations and powers when he is in this
exceptional state, become the type with which he compares, and by which
he estimates, his sentiments and proceedings at other times: and his habitual
purposes assume a character moulded by and assimilated to the moments of
lofty excitement, although those, from the physical nature of a human being,
can only be transient. Experience of races, as well as of individuals,
does not show those of excitable temperament to be less fit, on the average,
either for speculation or practice, than the more unexcitable. The French,
and the Italians, are undoubtedly by nature more nervously excitable than
the Teutonic races, and, compared at least with the English, they have
a much greater habitual and daily emotional life: but have they been less
great in science, in public business, in legal and judicial eminence, or
in war? There is abundant evidence that the Greeks were of old, as their
descendants and successors still are, one of the most excitable of the
races of mankind. It is superfluous to ask, what among the achievements
of men they did not excel in. The Romans, probably, as an equally southern
people, had the same original temperament: but the stern character of their
national discipline, like that of the Spartans, made them an example of
the opposite type of national character; the greater strength of their
natural feelings being chiefly apparent in the intensity which the same
original temperament made it possible to give to the artificial. If these
cases exemplify what a naturally excitable people may be made, the Irish
Celts afford one of the aptest examples of what they are when left to themselves;
(if those can be said to be left to themselves who have been for centuries
under the indirect influence of bad government, and the direct training
of a Catholic hierarchy and of a sincere belief in the Catholic religion).
The Irish character must be considered, therefore, as an unfavourable case:
yet, whenever the circumstances of the individual have been at all favourable,
what people have shown greater capacity for the most varied and multifarious
individual eminence? Like the French compared with the English, the Irish
with the Swiss, the Greeks or Italians compared with the German races,
so women compared with men may be found, on the average, to do the same
things with some variety in the particular kind of excellence. But, that
they would do them fully as well on the whole, if their education and cultivation
were adapted to correcting instead of aggravating the infirmities incident
to their temperament, I see not the smallest reason to doubt.
Supposing it, however, to be true that women's minds are by nature more
mobile than those of men, less capable of persisting long in the same continuous
effort, more fitted for dividing their faculties among many things than
for travelling in any one path to the highest point which can be reached
by it: this may be true of women as they now are (though not without great
and numerous exceptions), and may account for their having remained behind
the highest order of men in precisely the things in which this absorption
of the whole mind in one set of ideas and occupations may seem to be most
requisite. Still, this difference is one which can only affect the kind
of excellence, not the excellence itself, or its practical worth: and it
remains to be shown whether this exclusive working of a part of the mind,
this absorption of the whole thinking faculty in a single subject, and
concentration of it on a single work, is the normal and healthful condition
of the human faculties, even for speculative uses. I believe that what
is gained in special development by this concentration, is lost in the
capacity of the mind for the other purposes of life; and even in abstract
thought, it is my decided opinion that the mind does more by frequently
returning to a difficult problem, than by sticking to it without interruption.
For the purposes, at all events, of practice, from its highest to its humblest
departments, the capacity of passing promptly from one subject of consideration
to another, without letting the active spring of the intellect run down
between the two, is a power far more valuable; and this power women pre-eminently
possess, by virtue of the very mobility of which they are accused. They
perhaps have it from nature, but they certainly have it by training and
education; for nearly the whole of the occupations of women consist in
the management of small but multitudinous details, on each of which the
mind cannot dwell even for a minute, but must pass on to other things,
and if anything requires longer thought, must steal time at odd moments
for thinking of it. The capacity indeed which women show for doing their
thinking in circumstances and at times which almost any man would make
an excuse to himself for not attempting it, has often been noticed: and
a woman's mind, though it may be occupied only with small things, can hardly
ever permit its elf to be vacant, as a man's so often is when not engaged
in what he chooses to consider the business of his life. The business of
a woman's ordinary life is things in general, and can as little cease to
go on as the world to go round.
But (it is said) there is anatomical evidence of the superior mental
capacity of men compared with women: they have a larger brain. I reply,
that in the first place the fact itself is doubtful. It is by no means
established that the brain of a woman is smaller than that of a man. If
it is inferred merely because a woman's bodily frame generally is of less
dimensions than a man's, this criterion would lead to strange consequences.
A tall and large-boned man must on this showing be wonderfully superior
in intelligence to a small man, and an elephant or a whale must prodigiously
excel mankind. The size of the brain in human beings, anatomists say, varies
much less than the size of the body, or even of the head, and the one cannot
be at all inferred from the other. It is certain that some women have as
large a brain as any man. It is within my knowledge that a man who had
weighed many human brains, said that the heaviest he knew of, heavier even
than Cuvier's (the heaviest previously recorded), was that of a woman.
Next, I must observe that the precise relation which exists between the
brain and the intellectual powers is not yet well understood, but is a
subject of great dispute. That there is a very close relation we cannot
doubt. The brain is certainly the material organ of thought and feeling:
and (making abstraction of the great unsettled controversy respecting the
appropriation of different parts of the brain to different mental faculties)
I admit that it would be an anomaly, and an exception to all we know of
the general laws of life and organisation, if the size of the organ were
wholly indifferent to the function; if no accession of power were derived
from the great magnitude of the instrument. But the exception and the anomaly
would be fully as great if the organ exercised influence by its magnitude
only. In all the more delicate operations of nature—of which those of
the animated creation are the most delicate, and those of the nervous system
by far the most delicate of these—differences in the effect depend as
much on differences of quality in the physical agents, as on their quantity:
and if the quality of an instrument is to be tested by the nicety and delicacy
of the work it can do, the indications point to a greater average fineness
of quality in the brain and nervous system of women than of men. Dismissing
abstract difference of quality, a thing difficult to verify, the efficiency
of an organ is known to depend not solely on its size but on its activity:
and of this we have an approximate measure in the energy with which the
blood circulates through it, both the stimulus and the reparative force
being mainly dependent on the circulation. It would not be surprising—
it is indeed an hypothesis which accords well with the differences actually
observed between the mental operations of the two sexes—if men on the
average should have the advantage in the size of the brain, and women in
activity of cerebral circulation. The results which conjecture, founded
on analogy, would lead us to expect from this difference of organisation,
would correspond to some of those which we most commonly see. In the first
place, the mental operations of men might be expected to be slower. They
would neither be so prompt as women in thinking, nor so quick to feel.
Large bodies take more time to get into full action. on the other hand,
when once got thoroughly into play, men's brain would bear more work. It
would be more persistent in the line first taken; it would have more difficulty
in changing from one mode of action to another, but, in the one thing it
was doing, it could go on longer without loss of power or sense of fatigue.
And do we not find that the things in which men most excel women are those
which require most plodding and long hammering at a single thought, while
women do best what must be done rapidly ? A woman's brain is sooner fatigued,
sooner exhausted; but given the degree of exhaustion, we should expect
to find that it would recover itself sooner. I repeat that this speculation
is entirely hypothetical; it pretends to no more than to suggest a line
of inquiry. I have before repudiated the notion of its being yet certainly
known that there is any natural difference at all in the average strength
or direction of the mental capacities of the two sexes, much less what
that difference is. Nor is it possible that this should be known, so long
as the psychological laws of the formation of character have been so little
studied, even in a general way, and in the particular case never scientifically
applied at all; so long as the most obvious external causes of difference
of character are habitually disregarded—left unnoticed by the observer,
and looked down upon with a kind of supercilious contempt by the prevalent
schools both of natural history and of mental philosophy: who, whether
they look for the source of what mainly distinguishes human beings from
one another, in the world of matter or in that of spirit, agree in running
down those who prefer to explain these differences by the different relations
of human beings to society and life.
To so ridiculous an extent are the notions formed of the nature of women,
mere empirical generalisations, framed, without philosophy or analysis,
upon the first instances which present themselves, that the popular idea
of it is different in different countries, according as the opinions and
social circumstances of the country have given to the women living in it
any speciality of development or non-development. An oriental thinks that
women are by nature peculiarly voluptuous; see the violent abuse of them
on this ground in Hindoo writings. An Englishman usually thinks that they
are by nature cold. The sayings about women's fickleness are mostly of
French origin; from the famous distich of Francis the First, upward and
downward. In England it is a common remark, how much more constant women
are than men. Inconstancy has been longer reckoned discreditable to a woman,
in England than in France; and Englishwomen are besides, in their inmost
nature, much more subdued to opinion. It may be remarked by the way, that
Englishmen are in peculiarly unfavourable circumstances for attempting
to judge what is or is not natural, not merely to women, but to men, or
to human beings altogether, at least if they have only English experience
to go upon: because there is no place where human nature shows so little
of its original lineaments. Both in a good and a bad sense, the English
are farther from a state of nature than any other modern people. They are,
more than any other people, a product of civilisation and discipline. England
is the country in which social discipline has most succeeded, not so much
in conquering, as in suppressing, whatever is liable to conflict with it.
The English, more than any other people, not only act but feel according
to rule. In other countries, the taught opinion, or the requirement of
society, may be the stronger power, but the promptings of the individual
nature are always visible under it, and often resisting it: rule may be
stronger than nature, but nature is still there. In England, rule has to
a great degree substituted itself for nature. The greater part of life
is carried on, not by following inclination under the control of rule,
but by having no inclination but that of following a rule. Now this has
its good side doubtless, though it has also a wretchedly bad one; but it
must render an Englishman peculiarly ill-qualified to pass a judgment on
the original tendencies of human nature from his own experience. The errors
to which observers elsewhere are liable on the subject, are of a different
character. An Englishman is ignorant respecting human nature, a Frenchman
is prejudiced. An Englishman's errors are negative, a Frenchman's positive.
An Englishman fancies that things do not exist, because he never sees them;
a Frenchman thinks they must always and necessarily exist, because he does
see them. An Englishman does not know nature, because he has had no opportunity
of observing it; a Frenchman generally knows a great deal of it, but often
mistakes it, because he has only seen it sophisticated and distorted. For
the artificial state superinduced by society disguises the natural tendencies
of the thing which is the subject of observation, in two different ways:
by extinguishing the nature, or by transforming it. In the one case there
is but a starved residuum of nature remaining to be studied; in the other
case there is much, but it may have expanded in any direction rather than
that in which it would spontaneously grow.
I have-said that it cannot now be known how much of the existing mental
differences between men and women is natural and how much artificial; whether
there are any natural differences at all; or, supposing all artificial
causes of difference to be withdrawn, what natural character would be revealed
I am not about to attempt what I have pronounced impossible: but doubt
does not forbid conjecture, and where certainty is unattainable, there
may yet be the means of arriving at some degree of probability. The first
point, the origin of the differences actually observed, is the one most
accessible to speculation; and I shall attempt to approach it, by the only
path by which it can be reached; by tracing the mental consequences of
external influences. We cannot isolate a human being from the circumstances
of his condition, so as to ascertain experimentally what he would have
been by nature. but we can consider what he is, and what his circumstances
have been, and whether the one would have been capable of producing the
other.
Let us take, then, the only marked case which observation affords, of
apparent inferiority of women to men, if we except the merely physical
one of bodily strength. No production in philosophy, science, or art, entitled
to the first rank, has been the work of a woman. Is there any mode of accounting
for this, without supposing that women are naturally incapable of producing
them?
In the first place, we may fairly question whether experience has afforded
sufficient grounds for an induction. It is scarcely three generations since
women, saving very rare exceptions have begun to try their capacity in
philosophy, science, or art. It is only in the present generation that
their attempts have been at all numerous; and they are even now extremely
few, everywhere but in England and France. It is a relevant question, whether
a mind possessing the requisites of first rate eminence in speculation
or creative art could have been expected, on the mere calculation of chances,
to turn up during that lapse of time, among the women whose tastes and
personal position admitted of their devoting themselves to these pursuits
In all things which there has yet been time for—in all but the very highest
grades in the scale of excellence, especially in the department in which
they have been longest engaged, literature (both prose and poetry)—women
have done quite as much, have obtained fully as high prizes and as many
of them, as could be expected from the length of time and the number of
competitors. If we go back to the earlier period when very few women made
the attempt, yet some of those few made it with distinguished success.
The Greeks always accounted Sappho among their great poets; and we may
well suppose that Myrtis, said to have been the teacher of Pindar, and
Corinna, who five times bore away from him the prize of poetry, must at
least have had sufficient merit to admit of being compared with that great
name. Aspasia did not leave any philosophical writings; but it is an admitted
fact that Socrates resorted to her for instruction, and avowed himself
to have obtained it.
If we consider the works of women in modem times, and contrast them
with those of men, either in the literary or the artistic department, such
inferiority as may be observed resolves itself essentially into one thing:
but that is a most material one; deficiency of originality. Not total deficiency;
for every production of mind which is of any substantive value, has an
originality of its own—is a conception of the mind itself, not a copy
of something else. Thoughts original, in the sense of being unborrowed—of
being derived from the thinker's own observations or intellectual processes—are
abundant in the writings of women. But they have not yet produced any of
those great and luminous new ideas which form an era in thought, nor those
fundamentally new conceptions in art, which open a vista of possible effects
not before thought of, and found a new school. Their compositions are mostly
grounded on the existing fund of thought, and their creations do-not deviate
widely from existing types. This is the sort of inferiority which their
works manifest: for in point of execution, in the detailed application
of thought, and the perfection of style, there is no inferiority. Our best
novelists in point of composition, and of the management of detail, have
mostly been women; and there is not in all modern literature a more eloquent
vehicle of thought than the style of Madame de Stael, nor, as a specimen
of purely artistic excellence, anything superior to the prose of Madame
Sand, whose style acts upon the nervous system like a symphony of Haydn
or Mozart. High originality of conception is, as I have said, what is chiefly
wanting. And now to examine if there is any manner in which this deficiency
can be accounted for.
Let us remember, then, so far as regards mere thought, that during all
that period in the world's existence, and in the progress of cultivation,
in which great and fruitful new truths I could be arrived at by mere force
of genius, with little precious study and accumulation of knowledge—during
all that time women did not concern themselves with speculation at all.
From the days of Hypatia to those of the Reformation, the illustrious Heloisa
is almost the only woman to whom any such achievement might have been possible;
and we know not how great a capacity of speculation in her may have been
lost to mankind by the misfortunes of her life. Never since any considerable
number of women have began to cultivate serious thought, has originality
been possible on easy terms. Nearly all the thoughts which can be reached
by mere strength of original faculties, have long since been arrived at;
and originality, in any high sense of the word, is now scarcely ever attained
but by minds which have undergone elaborate discipline, and are deeply
versed in the results of previous thinking. It is Mr. Maurice, I think,
who has remarked on the present age, that its most original thinkers are
those who have known most thoroughly what had been thought by their; predecessors:
and this will always henceforth be the case. Every fresh stone in the edifice
has now to be placed on the top of so many others, that a long process
of climbing, and of carrying up materials, has to be gone through by whoever
aspires to take a share in the present stage of the work. How many women
are there who have gone through any such process ? Mrs. Somerville, alone
perhaps of women, knows as much of mathematics as is now needful for making
any considerable mathematical discovery: is it any proof of inferiority
in women, that she has not happened to be one of the two or three persons
who in her lifetime have associated their names with some striking advancement
of the science? Two women, since political economy has been made a science,
have known enough of it to write usefully on the subject: of how many of
the innumerable men who have written on it during the same time, is it
possible with truth to say more? If no woman has hitherto been a great
historian, what woman has had the necessary erudition? If no woman is a
great philologist, what woman has studied Sanscrit and Slavonic, the Gothic
of Ulphila and the Persic of the Zendavesta? Even in practical matters
we all know what is the value of the originality of untaught geniuses.
It means, inventing over again in its rudimentary form something already
invented and improved upon by many successive inventors. When women have
had the preparation which all men now require to be eminently original,
it will be time enough to begin judging by experience of their capacity
for originality.
It no doubt often happens that a person, who has not widely and accurately
studied the thoughts of others on a subject, has by natural sagacity a
happy intuition, which he can suggest, but cannot prove, which yet when
matured may be an important addition to knowledge: but even then, no justice
can be done to it until some other person, who does possess the previous
acquirements, takes it in hand, tests it, gives it a scientific or practical
form, and fits it into its place among the existing truths of philosophy
or science. Is it supposed that such felicitous thoughts do not occur to
women? They occur by hundreds to every woman of intellect. But they are
mostly lost, for want of a husband or friend who has the other knowledge
which can enable him to estimate them properly and bring them before the
world: and even when they are brought before it, they generally appear
as his ideas, not their real author's. Who can tell how many of the most
original thoughts put forth by male writers, belong to a woman by suggestion,
to themselves only by verifying and working out ? If I may judge by my
own case, a very large proportion indeed.
If we turn from pure speculation to literature in the narrow sense of
the term, and the fine arts, there is.a very obvious reason why women's
literature is, in its general conception and in its main features, an imitation
of men's. Why is the Roman literature, as critics proclaim to satiety,
not original, but an imitation of the Greek ? Simply because the Greeks
came first. If women lived in a different country from men, and had never
read any of their writings, they would have had a literature of their own.
As it is, they have not created one, because they found a highly advanced
literature already created. If there had been no suspension of the knowledge
of antiquity, or if the Renaissance had occurred before the Gothic cathedrals
were built, they never would have been built. We see that, in France and
Italy, imitation of the ancient literature stopped the original development
even after it had commenced. All women who write are pupils of the great
male writers. A painter's early pictures, even if he be a Raffaello, are
undistinguishable in style from those of his master. Even a Mozart does
not display his powerful originality in his earliest pieces. What years
are to a gifted individual, generations are to a mass. If women's literature
is destined to have a different collective character from that of men,
depending on any difference of natural tendencies, much longer time is
necessary than has yet elapsed, before it can emancipate itself from the
influence of accepted models, and guide itself by its own impulses. But
if, as I believe, there will not prove to be any natural tendencies common
to women, and distinguishing their genius from that of men, yet every individual
writer among them has her individual tendencies, which at present are still
subdued by the influence of precedent and example: and it will require
generations more, before their individuality is sufficiently developed
to make head against that influence.
It is in the fine arts, properly so called, that the prima facie evidence
of inferior original powers in women at first sight appears the strongest:
since opinion (it may be said) does not exclude them from these, but rather
encourages them, and their education, instead of passing over this department,
is in the affluent classes mainly composed of it. Yet in this line of exertion
they have fallen still more short than in many others, of the highest eminence
attained by men. This shortcoming, however, needs no other explanation
than the familiar fact, more universally true in the fine arts than in
anything else; the vast superiority of professional persons over amateurs.
Women in the educated classes are almost universally taught more or less
of some branch or other of the fine arts, but not that they may gain their
living or their social consequence by it. Women artists are all amateurs.
The exceptions are only of the kind which confirm the general truth. Women.
are taught music, I but not for the purpose of composing, only of executing
it: and accordingly it is only as composers, that men, in music, are superior
to women. The only one of the fine arts which women do follow, to any extent,
as a profession, and an occupation for life, is the histrionic; and in
that they are confessedly equal, if not superior, to men. To make the comparison
fair, it should be made between the productions of women in any branch
of art, and those of men not following it as a profession. In musical composition,
for example, women surely have produced fully as good things as have ever
been produced by male amateurs. There are now a few women, a very few,
who practise painting as a profession, and these are already beginning
to show quite as much talent as could be expected. Even male painters (pace
Mr. Ruskin) have not made any very remarkable figure these last centuries,
and it will be long before they do so. The reason why the old painters
were so greatly superior to the modern, is that a greatly superior class
of men applied themselves to the art. In the fourteenth and fifteenth centuries
the Italian painters were the most accomplished men of their age. The greatest
of them were men of encyclopaedical acquirements and powers, like the great
men of Greece. But in their times fine art was, to men's feelings and conceptions,
among the grandest things in which a human being could excel; and by it
men were made,- what only political or military distinction now makes them,
the companions of sovereigns, and the equals of the highest nobility. In
the present age, men of anything like similar calibre find something more-important
to do, for their own fame and the uses of the modern world, than painting:
and it is only now and then that a Reynolds or a Turner (of whose relative
rank among eminent men I do not pretend to an opinion) applies himself
to that art. Music belongs to a different order of things: it does not
require the same general powers of mind, but seems more dependent on a
natural gift: and it may be thought surprising that no one of the great
musical composers has been a woman. But even this natural gift, to be made
available for great creations, requires study, and professional devotion
to the pursuit. The only countries which have produced first-rate composers,
even of the male sex, are Germany and Italy— countries in which, both
in point of special and of general cultivation, women have remained far
behind France and England, being generally (it may be said without exaggeration)
very little educated, and having scarcely cultivated at all any of the
higher faculties of mind. And in those countries the men who are acquainted
with the principles of musical composition must be counted by hundreds,
or more probably by thousands, the women barely by scores: so that here
again, on the doctrine of averages, we cannot reasonably expect to see
more than one eminent woman to fifty eminent men; and the last three centuries
have not produced fifty eminent male composers either in Germany or in
Italy.
There are other reasons, besides those which we have now given, that
help to explain why women remain behind men, even in the pursuits which
are open to both. For one thing, very few women have time for them. This
may seem a paradox; it is an undoubted social fact. The time and thoughts
of every woman have to satisfy great previous demands on them for things
practical. There is, first, the superintendence of the family and the domestic
expenditure, which occupies at least one woman in every family, generally
the one of mature years and acquired experience; unless the family is so
rich as to admit of delegating that task to hired agency, and submitting
to all the waste and malversation inseparable from that mode of conducting
it. The superintendence of a household, even when not in other respects
laborious, is extremely onerous to the thoughts; it requires incessant
vigilance, an eye which no detail escapes, and presents questions for consideration
and solution, foreseen and unforeseen, at every hour of the day, from which
the person responsible for them can hardly ever shake herself free. If
a woman is of a rank and circumstances which relieve her in a measure from
these cares, she has still devolving on her the management for the whole
family of its intercourse with others — of what is called society, and
the less the call made on her by the former duty, the greater is always
the development of the latter: the dinner parties, concerts, evening parties,
morning visits, letter-writing, and all that goes with them. All this is
over and above the engrossing duty which society imposes exclusively on
women, of making themselves charming. A clever woman of the higher ranks
finds nearly a sufficient employment of her talents in cultivating the
graces of manner and the arts of conversation. To look only at the outward
side of the subject: the great and continual exercise of thought which
all women who attach any value to dressing well (I do not mean expensively,
but with taste, and perception of natural and of artificial convenance)
must bestow upon their own dress, perhaps also upon that of their daughters,
would alone go a great way towards achieving respectable results in art,
or science, or literature, and does actually exhaust much of the time and
mental power they might have to spare for either.[2] If it were possible
that all this number of little practical interests (which are made great
to them) should leave them either much leisure, or much energy and freedom
of mind, to be devoted to art or speculation, they must have a much greater
original supply of active faculty than the vast majority of men. But this
is not all. Independently of the regular offices of life which devolve
upon a woman, she is expected to have her time and faculties always at
the disposal of everybody. If a man has not a profession to exempt him
from such demands, still, if he has a pursuit, he offends nobody by devoting
his time to it; occupation is received as a valid excuse for his not answering
to every casual demand which may be made on him. Are a woman's occupations,
especially her chosen and voluntary ones, ever regarded as excusing her
from any of what are termed the calls of society ? Scarcely are her most
necessary and recognised duties allowed as an exemption. It requires an
illness in the family, or something else out of the common way, to entitle
her to give her own business the precedence over other people's amusement.
She must always be at the beck and call of somebody, generally of everybody.
If she has a study or a pursuit, she must snatch any short interval which
accidentally occurs to be employed in it. A celebrated woman, in a work
which I hope will some day be published, remarks truly that everything
a woman does is done at odd times. Is it wonderful, then, if she does not
attain the highest eminence in things which require consecutive attention,
and the concentration on them of the chief interest of life ? Such is philosophy,
and such, above all, is art, in which, besides the devotion of the thoughts
and feelings, the hand also must be kept in constant exercises to attain
high skill.
There is another consideration to be added to all these. In the various
arts and intellectual occupations, there is a degree of proficiency sufficient
for living by it, and there is a higher degree on which depend the great
productions which immortalise a name. To the attainment of the former,
there are adequate motives in the case of all who follow the pursuit professionally:
the other is hardly ever attained where there is not, or where there has
not been at some period of life, an ardent desire of celebrity. Nothing
less is commonly a sufficient stimulus to undergo the long and patient
drudgery, which, in the case even of the greatest natural gifts, is absolutely
required for great eminence in pursuits in which we already possess so
many splendid memorials of the highest genius. Now, whether the cause be
natural or artificial, women seldom have this eagerness for fame. Their
ambition is generally confined within narrower bounds. The influence they
seek is over those who immediately surround them. Their desire is to be
liked, loved, or admired, by those whom they see with their eyes: and the
proficiency in knowledge, arts, and accomplishments, which is sufficient
for that, almost always contents them. This is a trait of character which
cannot be left out of the account in judging of women as they are. I do
not at all believe that it is inherent in women. It is only the natural
result of their circumstances. The love of fame in men is encouraged by
education and opinion: to " scorn delights and live laborious days " for
its sake, is accounted the part of "noble minds," even if spoken of as
their "last infirmity," and is stimulated by the access which fame gives
to all objects of ambition, including even the favour of women; while to
women themselves all these objects are closed, and the desire of fame itself
considered daring and unfeminine. Besides, how could it be that a woman's
interests should not be all concentrated upon the impressions made on those
who come into her daily life, when society has ordained that all her duties
should be to them, and has contrived that all her comforts should depend
on them? The natural desire of consideration from our fellow-creatures
is as strong in a woman as in a man; but society has so ordered things
that public consideration is, in all ordinary cases, only attainable by
her through the consideration of her husband or of her male relations,
while her private consideration is forfeited by making herself individually
prominent, or appearing in any other character than that of an appendage
to men. Whoever is in the least capable of estimating the influence on
the mind of the entire domestic and social position and the whole habit
of a life, must easily recognise in that influence a complete explanation
of nearly all the apparent differences between women and men, including
the whole of those which imply any inferiority.
As for moral differences, considered as distinguished from intellectual,
the distinction commonly drawn is to the advantage of women. They are declared
to be better than men; an empty compliment, which must provoke a bitter
smile from every woman of spirit, since there is no other situation in
life in which it is the established order, and considered quite natural
and suitable, that the better should obey the worse. If this piece of idle
talk is good for anything, it is only as an admission by men, of the corrupting
influence of power; for that is certainly the only truth which the fact,
if it be a fact, either proves or illustrates. And it is true that servitude,
except when it actually brutalises, though corrupting to both, is less
so to the slaves than to the slave-masters. It is wholesomer for the moral
nature to be restrained, even by arbitrary power, than to be allowed to
exercise arbitrary power without restraint. Women, it is said, seldomer
fall under the penal law— contribute a much smaller number of offenders
to the criminal calendar, than men. I doubt not that the same thing may
be said, with the same truth, of negro slaves. Those who are under the
control of others cannot often commit crimes, unless at the command and
for the purposes of their masters. I do not know a more signal instance
of the blindness with which the world, including the herd of studious men,
ignore and pass over all the influences of social circumstances, than their
silly depreciation of the intellectual, and silly panegyrics on the moral,
nature of women.
The complimentary dictum about women's superior moral goodness may be
allowed to pair off with the disparaging one respecting their greater liability
to moral bias. Women, we are told, are not capable of resisting their personal
partialities: their judgment in grave affairs is warped by their sympathies
and antipathies. Assuming it to be so, it is still to be proved that women
are oftener misled by their personal feelings than men by their personal
interests. The chief difference would seem in that case to be, that men
are led from the course of duty and the public interest by their regard
for themselves, women (not being allowed to have private interests of their
own) by their regard for somebody else. It is also to be considered, that
all the education which women receive from society inculcates on them the
feeling that the individuals connected with them are the only ones to whom
they owe any duty —the only ones whose interest they are called upon to
care for; while, as far as education is concerned, they are left strangers
even to the elementary ideas which are presupposed in any intelligent regard
for larger interests or higher moral objects. The complaint against them
resolves itself merely into this, that they fulfil only too faithfully
the sole duty which they are taught, and almost the only one which they
are permitted to practise.
The concessions of the privileged to the unprivileged are so seldom
brought about by any better motive than the power of the unprivileged to
extort them, that any arguments against the prerogative of sex are likely
to be little attended to by the generality, as long as they are able to
say to themselves that women do not complain of it. That fact certainly
enables men to retain the unjust privilege some time longer; but does not
render it less unjust. Exactly the same thing may be said of the women
in the harem of an oriental: they do not complain of not being allowed
the freedom of European women. They think our women insufferably bold and
unfeminine. How rarely it is that even men complain of the general order
of society; and how much rarer still would such complaint be, if they did
not know of any different order existing anywhere else. Women do not complain
of the general lot of women; or rather they do, for plaintive elegies on
it are very common in the writings of women, and were still more so as
long as the lamentations could not be suspected of having any practical
object. Their complaints are like the complaints which men make of the
general unsatisfactoriness of human life; they are not meant to imply blame,
or to plead for any change. But though women do not complain of the power
of husbands, each complains of her own husband, or of the husbands of her
friends. It is the same in all other cases of servitude, at least in the
commencement of the emancipatory movement. The serfs did not at first complain
of the power of their lords, but only of their tyranny. The commons began
by claiming a few municipal privileges; they next asked an exemption for
themselves from being taxed without their own consent; but they would at
that time have thought it a great presumption to claim any share in the
king's sovereign authority. The case of women is now the only case in which
to rebel against established rules is still looked upon with the same eyes
as was formerly a subject's claim to the I right of rebelling against his
king. A woman who joins in any movement which her husband disapproves,
makes herself a martyr, without even being able to be an apostle, for the
husband can legally put a stop to her apostleship. Women cannot be expected
to devote themselves to the emancipation of women, until men in considerable
number are prepared to join with them in the undertaking.
NOTES
[1] Especially is this true if we take into consideration Asia as well
as Europe. If a Hindoo principality is strongly, vigilantly, and economically
governed; if order is preserved without oppression; if cultivation is extending,
and the people prosperous, in three cases out of four that principalityis
under a woman's rule. This fact, to me an entirely unexpected one, I have
collected from a long knowledge of Hindoo governments. There are many such
instances: for though, by Hindoo institutions, a woman cannot reign, she
is the legal regent of a kingdom during the minority of the heir; and minorities
are frequent, the lives of the male rulers being so often prematurely terminated
through the effect of inactivity and sensual excesses. When we consider
that these princesses have never been seen in public, have never conversed
with any man not of their own family except from behind a curtain, that
they do not read, and if they did there is no book in their languages which
ca give them the smallest instruction on political affairs; the example
they afford of the natural capacity of women for government is very striking.
[2] "It appears to be the same right turn of mind which enables a man
to acquire the truth, or just idea of what is right, in the ornaments,
as in the more stable principles of art. It has still the same centre of
perfection, though it is the centre of a smaller circle. —To illustrate
this by fashion of dress, in which there is allowed to be a good or bad
taste. The component parts of dress are continually changing from great
to little, from short to long; but the general form still remains; it is
still the same general dress which is comparatively fixed , though on a
very slender foundation; but it is on this which fashion must rest. He
who invents with the most success, or dresses in the best taste, would
probably, from the same sagacity employed to greater purposes, have discovered
equal skill, or have formed the same correct taste, in the highest labours
of art." — Sir Joshua Reynold's Discourses, Disc. vii.
CHAPTER IV
There remains a question, not of less importance than those already
discussed, and which will be asked the most importunately by those opponents
whose conviction is somewhat shaken on the main point. What good are we
to expect from the changes proposed in our customs and institutions? Would
mankind be at all better off if women were free? If not, why disturb their
minds, and attempt to make a social revolution in the name of an abstract
right? It is hardly to be expected that this question will be asked in
respect to the change proposed in the condition of women in marriage. The
sufferings, immoralities, evils of all sorts, produced in innumerable cases
by the subjection of individual women to individual men, are far too terrible
to be overlooked. Unthinking or uncandid persons, counting those cases
alone which are extreme, or which attain publicity, may say that the evils
are exceptional; but no one can be blind to their existence, nor, in many
cases, to their intensity. And it is perfectly obvious that the abuse of
the power cannot be very much checked while the power remains. It is a
power given, or offered, not to good men, or to decently respectable men,
but to all men; the most brutal, and the most criminal. There is no check
but that of opinion, and such men are in general within the reach of no
opinion but that of men like themselves. If such men did not brutally tyrannise
over the one human being whom the law compels to bear everything from them,
society must already have reached a paradisiacal state. There could be
no need any longer of laws to curb men's vicious propensities. Astraea
must not only have returned to earth, but the heart of the worst man must
have become her temple. The law of servitude in marriage is a monstrous
contradiction to all the principles of the modern world, and to all the
experience through which those principles have been slowly and painfully
worked out. It is the sole case, now that negro slavery has been abolished,
in which a human being in the plenitude of every faculty is delivered up
to the tender mercies of another human being, in the hope forsooth that
this other will use the power solely for the good of the person subjected
to it. Marriage is the only actual bondage known to our law. There remain
no legal slaves, except the mistress of every house. It is not, therefore,
on this part of the subject, that the question is likely to be asked, Cui
bono ~ We may be told that the evil would outweigh the good, but the reality
of the good admits of no dispute. In regard, however, to the larger question,
the removal of women's disabilities—their recognition as the equals of
men in all that belongs to citizenship—the opening to them of all honourable
employments, and of the training and education which qualifies for those
employments—there are many persons for whom it is not enough that the
inequality has no just or legitimate defence; they require to be told what
express advantage would be obtained by abolishing it. To which let me first
answer, the advantage of having the most universal and pervading of all
human relations regulated by justice instead of injustice. The vast amount
of this gain to human nature, it is hardly possible, by any explanation
or illustration, to place in a stronger light than it is placed by the
bare statement, to anyone who attaches a moral meaning to words. All the
selfish propensities, the self-worship, the unjust self-preference, which
exist among mankind, have their source and root in, and derive their principal
nourishment from, the present constitution of the relation between men
and women. Think what it is to a boy, to grow up to manhood in the belief
that without any merit or any exertion of his own, though he may be the
most frivolous and empty or the most ignorant and stolid of mankind, by
the mere fact of being born a male he is by right the superior of all and
every one of an entire half of the human race: including probably some
whose real superiority to himself he has daily or hourly occasion to feel;
but even if in his whole conduct he habitually follows a woman's guidance,
still, if he is a fool, she thinks that of course she is not, and cannot
be, equal in ability and judgment to himself; and if he is not a fool,
he does worse—he sees that she is superior to him, and believes that,
notwithstanding her superiority, he is entitled to command and she is bound
to obey. What must be the effect on his character, of this lesson ? And
men of the cultivated classes are often not aware how deeply it sinks into
the immense majority of male minds. For, among right-feeling and wellbred
people, the inequality is kept as much as possible out of sight; above
all, out of sight of the children. As much obedience is required from boys
to their mother as to their father: they are not permitted to domineer
over their sisters, nor are they accustomed to see these postponed to them,
but the contrary; the compensations of the chivalrous feeling being made
prominent, while the servitude which requires them is kept in the background.
Well brought-up youths in the higher classes thus often escape the bad
influences of the situation in their early years, and only experience them
when, arrived at manhood, they fall under the dominion of facts as they
really exist. Such people are little aware, when a boy is differently brought
up, how early the notion of his inherent superiority to a girl arises in
his mind; how it grows with his growth and strengthens with his strength;
how it is inoculated by one schoolboy upon another; how early the youth
thinks himself superior to his mother, owing her perhaps forbearance, but
no-real respect; ana how sublime and sultan-like a sense of superiority
he feels, above all, over the woman whom he honours by admitting her to
a partnership of his life. Is it imagined that all this does not pervert
the whole manner of existence of the man, both as an individual and as
a social being? It is an exact parallel to the feeling of a hereditary
king that he is excellent above others by being born a king, or a noble
by being born a noble. The relation between husband and wife is very like
that between lord and vassal, except that the wife is held to more unlimited
obedience than the vassal was. However the vassal's character may have
been affected, for better and for worse, by his subordination, who can
help seeing that the lord's was affected greatly for the worse? whether
he was led to believe that his vassals were really superior to himself,
or to feel that he was placed in command over people as good as himself,
for no merits or labours of his own, but merely for having, as Figaro says,
taken the trouble to be born. The self-worship of the monarch, or of the
feudal superior, is matched by the self-worship of the male. Human beings
do not grow up from childhood in the possession of unearned distinctions,
without pluming themselves upon them. Those whom privileges not acquired
by their merit, and which they feel to be disproportioned to it, inspire
with additional humility, are always the few, and the best few. The rest
are only inspired with pride, and the worst sort of pride, that which values
itself upon accidental advantages, not of its own achieving. Above all,
when the feeling of being raised above the whole of the other sex is combined
with personal authority over one individual among them; the situation,
if a school of conscientious and affectionate forbearance to those whose
strongest points of character are conscience and affection, is to men of
another quality a regularly constituted academy or gymnasium for training
them in arrogance and overbearingness; which vices, if curbed by the certainty
of resistance in their intercourse with other men, their equals, break
out towards all who are in a position to be obliged to tolerate them, and
often revenge themselves upon the unfortunate wife for the involuntary
restraint which they are obliged to submit to elsewhere. The example afforded,
and the education given to the sentiments, by laying the foundation of
domestic existence upon a relation contradictory to the first principles
of social justice must, from the very nature of man, have a perverting
influence of such magnitude, that it is hardly possible with our present
experience to raise our imaginations to the conception of so great a change
for the better as would be made by its removal. All that education and
civilisation are doing to efface the influences on character of the law
of force, and replace them by those of justice, remains merely on the surface,
as long as the citadel of the enemy is not attacked. The principle of the
modern movement in morals and politics, is that conduct, and conduct alone,
entitles to respect: that not what men are, but what they do, constitutes
their claim to deference; that, above all, merit, and not birth, is the
only rightful claim to power and authority. If no authority, not in its
nature temporary, were allowed to one human being over another, society
would not be employed in building up propensities with one hand which it
has to curb with the other. The child would really, for the first time
in man's existence on earth, be trained in the way he should go, and when
he was old there would be a chance that he would not depart from it. But
so long as the right of the strong to power over the weak rules in the
very heart of society, the attempt to make the equal right of the weak
~h~. principle of its outward actions will always be an uphill struggle;
for the law of justice, which is also that of Christianity, will never
get possession of men's inmost sentiments; they will be working against
it, even when bending to it. The second benefit to be expected from giving
to women the free use of their faculties, by leaving them the free choice
of their employments, and opening to them the same field of occupation
and the same prizes and encouragements as to other human beings, would
be that of doubling the mass of mental faculties available for the higher
service of humanity. Where there is now one person qualified to benefit
mankind and promote the general improvement, as a public teacher, or an
administrator of some branch of public or social affairs, there would then
be a chance of two. Mental superiority of any kind is at present everywhere
so much below the demand; there is such a deficiency of persons competent
to do excellently anything which it requires any considerable amount of
ability to do; that the loss to the world, by refusing to make use of one
half of the whole quantity of talent it possesses, is extremely serious.
It is true that this amount of mental power is not totally lost. Much of
it is employed, and would in any case be employed, in domestic management,
and in the few other occupations open to women; and from the remainder
indirect benefit is in many individual cases obtained, through the personal
influence of individual women over individual men. But these benefits are
partial; their range is extremely circumscribed; and if they must be admitted,
on the one hand, as a deduction from the amount of fresh social power that
would be acquired by giving freedom to one-half of the whole sum of human
intellect, there must be added, on the other, the benefit of the stimulus
that would be given to the intellect of men by the competition; or (to
use a more true expression) by the necessity that would be imposed on them
of deserving precedency before they could expect to obtain it. This great
accession to the intellectual power of the species, and to the amount of
intellect available for the good management of its affairs, would be obtained,
partly, through the better and more complete intellectual education of
women, which would then improve pari passu with that of men. Women in general
would be brought up equally capable of understanding business, public affairs,
and the higher matters of speculation, with men In the same class of society;
and the select few of the one as well as of the other sex, who were qualified
not only to comprehend what is done or thought by others, but to think
or do something considerable themselves, would meet with the same facilities
for improving and training their capacities in the one sex as in the other.
In this way, the widening of the sphere of action for women would operate
for good, by raising their education to the level of that of men, and making
the one participate in all improvements made in the other. But independently
of this, the mere breaking down of the barrier would of itself have an
educational virtue of the highest worth. The mere getting rid of the idea
that all the wider subjects of thought and action, all the things which
are of general and not solely of private interest, are men's business,
from which women are to be warned off—positively interdicted from most
of it, coldly tolerated in the little which is allowed them—the mere consciousness
a woman would then have of being a human being like any other, entitled
to choose her pursuits, urged or invited by the same inducements as anyone
else to interest herself in whatever is interesting to human beings, entitled
to exert the share of influence on all human concerns which belongs to
an individual opinion, whether she attempted actual participation in them
or not—this alone would effect an immense expansion of the faculties of
women, as well as enlargement of the range of their moral sentiments. Besides
the addition to the amount of individual talent available for the conduct
of human affairs, which certainly are not at present so abundantly provided
in that respect that they can afford to dispense with one-half of what
nature proffers; the opinion of women would then possess a more beneficial,
rather than a greater, influence upon the general mass of human belief
and sentiment. I say a more beneficial, rather than a greater influence;
for the influence of women over the general tone of opinion has always,
or at least from the earliest known period, been very considerable. The
influence of mothers on the early character of their sons, and the desire
of young men to recommend themselves to young women, have in all recorded
times been important agencies in the formation of character, and have determined
some of the chief steps in the progress of civilisation. Even in the Homeric
age, [Greek word deleted] towards the [Greek phrase deleted] is an acknowledged
and powerful motive of action in the great Hector. The moral influence
of women has had two modes of operation. First, it has been a softening
influence. Those who were most liable to be the victims of violence, have
naturally tended as much as they could towards limiting its sphere and
mitigating its excesses. Those who were not taught to fight, have naturally
inclined in favour of any other mode of settling differences rather than
that of fighting. In general, those who have been the greatest sufferers
by the indulgence of selfish passion, have been the most earnest supporters
of any moral law which offered a means of bridling passion. Women were
powerfully instrumental in inducing the northern conquerors to adopt the
creed of Christianity, a creed so much more favourable to women than any
that preceded it. The conversion of the Anglo-Saxons and of the Franks
may be said to have been begun by the wives of Ethelbert and Clovis. The
other mode in which the effect of women's opinion has been conspicuous,
is by giving, a powerful stimulus to those qualities in men, which, not
being themselves trained in, it was necessary for them that they should
find in their protectors. Courage, and the military virtues generally,
have at all times been greatly indebted to the desire which men felt of
being admired by women: and the stimulus reaches far beyond this one class
of eminent qualities, since, by a very natural effect of their position,
the best passport to the admiration and favour of women has always been
to be thought highly of by men. From the combination of the two kinds of
moral influence thus exercised by women, arose the spirit of chivalry:
the peculiarity ~,f which is, to aim at combining the highest standard
of the warlike qualities with the cultivation of a totally different class
of virtues—those of gentleness, generosity, and self-abnegation, towards
the non-military and defenseless classes generally, and a special submission
and worship directed towards women; who were distinguished from the other
defenceless classes by the high rewards which they had it in their power
voluntarily to bestow on those who endeavoured to earn their favour, instead
of extorting their subjection. Though the practice of chivalry fell even
more sadly short of its theoretic standard than practice generally falls
below theory, it remains one of the most precious monuments of the moral
history of our race; as a remarkable instance of a concerted and organised
attempt by a most disorganised and distracted society, to raise up and
carry into practice a moral ideal greatly in advance of its social condition
and institutions; so much so as to have been completely frustrated in the
main object, yet never entirely inefficacious, and which has left a most
sensible, and for the most part a highly valuable impress on the ideas
and feelings of all subsequent times. The chivalrous ideal is the acme
of the influence of women's sentiments on the moral cultivation of mankind:
and if women are to remain in their subordinate situation, it were greatly
to be lamented that the chivalrous standard should have passed away, for
it is the only one at all capable of mitigating the demoralising influences
of that position. But the changes in the general state of the species rendered
inevitable the substitution of a totally different ideal of morality for
the chivalrous one. Chivalry was the attempt to infuse moral elements into
a state of society in which everything depended for good o~ evil on individual
prowess, under the softening influences of individual delicacy and generosity.
In modern societies, all things, even in the military department of affairs,
are decided, not by individual effort, but by the combined operations of
numbers; while the main occupation of society has changed from fighting
to business, from military to industrial life. The exigencies of the new
life are no more exclusive of the virtues of generosity than those of the
old, but it no longer entirely depends on them. The main foundations of
the moral life of modern times must be justice and prudence; the respect
of each for the rights of every other, and the ability of each to take
care of himself. Chivalry left without legal check all forms of wrong which
reigned unpunished throughout society; it only encouraged a few to do right
in preference to wrong, by the direction it gave to the instruments of
praise and admiration. But the real dependence of morality must always
be upon its penal sanctions—its power to deter from evil. The security
of society cannot rest on merely rendering honour to right, a motive so
comparatively weak in all but a few, and which on very many does not operate
at all. Modern society is able to repress wrong through all departments
of life, by a fit exertion of the superior strength which civilisation
has given it, and thus to render the existence of the weaker members of
society (no longer defenseless but protected by law) tolerable to them,
without reliance on the chivalrous feelings of those who are in a position
to tyrannise. The beauties and graces of the chivalrous character are still
what they were, but the rights of the weak, and the general comfort of
human life, now rest on a far surer and steadier support; or rather, they
do so in every relation of life except the conjugal. At present the moral
influence of women is no less real, but it is no longer of so marked and
definite a character: it has more nearly merged in the general influence
of public opinion. Both through the contagion of sympathy, and through
the desire of men to shine in the eyes of women, their feelings have great
effect in keeping alive what remains of the chivalrous ideal—in fostering
the sentiments and continuing the traditions of spirit and generosity.
In these points of character, their standard is higher than that of men;
in the quality of justice, somewhat lower. As regards the relations of
private life it may be said generally, that their influence is, on the
whole, encouraging to the softer virtues, discouraging to the sterner:
though the statement must be taken with all the modifications dependent
on individual character. In the chief of the greater trials to which virtue
is subject in the concerns of life—the conflict between interest and principle—the
tendency of women's influence- is of a very mixed character. When the principle
involved happens to be one of the very few which the course of their religious
or moral education has strongly impressed upon themselves, they are potent
auxiliaries to virtue: and their husbands and sons are often prompted by
them to acts of abnegation which they never would have been capable of
without that stimulus. But, with the present education and position of
women, the moral principles which have been impressed on them cover but
a comparatively small part of the field of virtue, and are, moreover, principally
negative; forbidding particular acts, but having little to do with the
general direction of the thoughts and purposes. I am afraid it must be
said, that disinterestedness in the general conduct of life—the devotion
of the energies to purposes which hold out no promise of private advantages
to the family—is very seldom encouraged or supported by women's influence.
It is small blame to them that they discourage objects of which they have
not learnt to see the advantage, and which withdraw their men from them,
and from the interests of the family. But the consequence is that women's
influence is often anything but favourable to public virtue. Women have,
however, some share of influence in giving the tone to public moralities
since their sphere of action has been a little widened, and since a considerable
number of them have occupied themselves practically in the promotion of
objects reaching beyond their own family and household. The influence of
women counts for a great deal in two of the most marked features of modern
European life—its aversion to war, and its addiction to philanthropy.
Excellent characteristics both; but unhappily, if the influence of women
is valuable in the encouragement it gives to these feelings in general,
in the particular applications the direction it gives to them is at least
as often mischievous as useful. In the philanthropic department more particularly,
the two provinces chiefly cultivated by women are religious proselytism
and charity. Religious proselytism at home, is but another word for embittering
of religious animosities: abroad, it is usually a blind running at an object,
without either knowing or heeding the fatal mischiefs—fatal to the religious
object itself as well as to all other desirable objects —which may be
produced by the means employed. As for charity, it is a matter in which
the immediate effect on the persons directly concerned, and the ultimate
consequence to the general good, are apt to be at complete war with one
another: while the education given to women—an education of the sentiments
rather than of the understanding—and the habit inculcated by their whole
life, of looking to immediate effects on persons, and not to remote effects
on classes of persons— make them both unable to see, and unwilling to
admit, the ultimate evil tendency of any form of charity or philanthropy
which commends itself to their sympathetic feelings. The great and continually
increasing mass of unenlightened and shortsighted benevolence, which, taking
the care of people's lives out of their own hands, and relieving them from
the disagreeable consequences of their own acts, saps the very foundations
of the self-respect, self-help, and self-control which are the essential
conditions both of individual prosperity and of social virtue— this waste
of resources and of benevolent feelings in doing harm instead of good,
is immensely swelled by women's contributions, and stimulated by their
influence. Not that this is a mistake likely to be made by women, where
they have actually the practical management of schemes of beneficence.
It sometimes happens that women who administer public charities—with that
insight into present fact, and especially into the minds and feelings of
those with whom they are in immediate contact, in which women generally
excel men— recognise in the clearest manner the demoralising influence
of the alms given or the help afforded, and could give lessons on the subject
to many a male political economist. But women who only give their money,
and are not brought face to face with the effects it produces, how can
they be expected to foresee them ? A woman born to the present lot of women,
and content with it, how should she appreciate the value of self-dependence
? She is not self-dependent; she is not taught self-dependence; her destiny
is to receive everything from others, and why should what is good enough
for her be bad for the poor? Her familiar notions of good are of blessings
descending from a superior. She forgets that she is not free, and that
the poor are; that if what they need is given to them unearned, they cannot
be compelled to earn it: that everybody cannot be taken care of by everybody,
but there must be some motive to induce people to take care of themselves;
and that to be helped-to help themselves, if they are physically capable
of it, is the only charity which proves to be charity in the end. These
considerations show how usefully the part which women take in the formation
of general opinion, would be modified for the better by that more enlarged
instruction, and practical conversancy with the things which their opinions
influence, that would necessarily arise from their social and political
emancipation. But the improvement it would work through the influence they
exercise, each in her own family, would be still more remarkable. It is
often said that in the classes most exposed to temptation, a man's wife
and children tend to keep him honest and respectable, both by the wife's
direct influence, and by the concern he feels for their future welfare.
This may be so, and no doubt often is so, with those who are more weak
than wicked; and this beneficial influence would be preserved and strengthened
under equal laws; it does not depend on the woman's servitude, but is,
on the contrary, diminished by the disrespect which the inferior class
of men always at heart feel towards those who are subject to their power.
But when we ascend higher in the scale, we come among a totally different
set of moving forces. The wife's influence tends, as far as it goes, to
prevent the husband from falling below the common standard of approbation
of the country. It tends quite as strongly to hinder him from rising above
it. The wife is the auxiliary of the common public opinion. A man who is
married to a woman his inferior in intelligence, finds her a perpetual
dead weight, or, worse than a dead weight, a drag, upon every aspiration
of his to be better than public opinion requires him to be. It is hardly
possible for one who is in these bonds, to attain exalted virtue. If he
differs in his opinion from the mass—if he sees truths which have not
yet dawned upon them, or if, feeling in his heart truths which they nominally
recognise, he would like to act up to those truths more conscientiously
than the generality of mankind— to all such thoughts and desires, marriage
is the heaviest of drawbacks, unless he be so fortunate as to have a wife
as much above the common level as he himself is. For, in the first place,
there is always some sacrifice of personal interest required; either of
social consequence, or of pecuniary means; perhaps the risk of even the
means of subsistence. These sacrifices and risks he may be willing to encounter
for himself; but he will pause before he imposes them on his family. And
his family in this case means his wife and daughters; for he always hopes
that his sons will feel as he feels himself, and that what he can do without,
they will do without, willingly, is the same cause. But his daughters-
-their marriage may depend upon it: and his wife, who is unable to enter
into or understand the objects for which these sacrifices are made— who,
if she thought them worth any sacrifice, would think so on trust, and solely
for his sake—who could participate in none of the enthusiasm or the self-approbation
he himself may feel, while the things which he is disposed to sacrifice
are all in all to her; will not the best and most unselfish man hesitate
the longest before bringing on her this consequence? If it be not the comforts
of life, but only social consideration, that is at stake, the burthen upon
his conscience and feelings is still very severe. Whoever has a wife and
children has given hostages to Mrs. Grundy. The approbation of that potentate
may be a matter of indifference to him, but it is of great importance to
his wife. The man himself may be above opinion, or may find sufficient
compensation in the opinion of those of his own way of thinking. But to
the women connected with him, he can offer no compensation. The almost
invariable tendency of the wife to place her influence in the same scale
with social consideration, is sometimes made a reproach to women, and represented
as a peculiar trait of feebleness and childishness of character in them:
surely with great injustice. Society makes the whole life of a woman, in
the easy classes, a continued self sacrifice; it exacts from her an unremitting
restraint of the whole of her natural inclinations, and the sole return
it makes to her for what often deserves the name of a martyrdom, is consideration.
Her consideration is inseparably connected with that of her husband, and
after paying the full price for it, she finds that she is to lose it, for
no reason of which she can feel the cogency. She has sacrificed her whole
life to it, and her husband will not sacrifice to it a whim, a freak, an
eccentricity; something not recognised or allowed for by the world, and
which the world will agree with her in thinking a folly, if it thinks no
worse ! The dilemma is hardest upon that very meritorious class of men,
who, without possessing talents which qualify them to make a figure among
those with whom they agree in opinion, hold their opinion from conviction,
and feel bound in honour and conscience to serve it, by making profession
of their belief, and giving their time, labour, and means, to anything
undertaken in its behalf. The worst case of all is when such men happen
to be of a rank and position which of itself neither gives them, nor excludes
them from, what is considered the best society; when their admission to
it depends mainly on what is thought of them personally—and however unexceptionable
their breeding and habits, their being identified with opinions and public
conduct unacceptable to those who give the tone to society would operate
as an effectual exclusion. Many a woman flatters herself (nine times out
of ten quite erroneously) that nothing prevents her and her husband from
moving in the highest society of her neighbourhood—society in which others
well known to her, and in the same class of life, mix freely—except that
her husband is unfortunately a Dissenter, or has the reputation of mingling
in low radical politics. That it is, she thinks, which hinders George from
getting a commission or a place, Caroline from making an advantageous match,
and prevents her and her husband from obtaining invitations, perhaps honours,
which, for aught she sees, they are as well entitled to as some folks.
With such an influence in every house, either exerted actively, or operating
all the more powerfully for not being asserted, is it any wonder that people
in \general are kept down in that mediocrity of respectability which is
becoming a marked characteristic of modern times? There is another very
injurious aspect in which the effect, not of women's disabilities directly,
but of the broad line of difference which those disabilities create between
the education and character of a woman and that of a man, requires to be
considered. Nothing can be more unfavourable to that union of thoughts
and inclinations which is the ideal of married life. Intimate society between
people radically dissimilar to one another, is an idle dream. .Unlikeness
may attract, but it is likeness which retains; and in proportion to the
likeness is the suitability of the individuals to give each other a happy
life. While women are so unlike men, it is not wonderful that selfish men
should feel the need of arbitrary power in their own hands, to arrest in
limine the life-long conflict of inclinations, by deciding every question
on the side of their own preference. When people are extremely unlike,
there can be no real identity of interest. Very often there is conscientious
difference of opinion between married people, on the highest points of
duty. Is there any reality in the marriage union where this takes place?
Yet it is not uncommon anywhere, when the woman has any earnestness of
character; and it is a very general case indeed in Catholic countries,
when she is supported in her dissent by the only other authority to which
she is taught to bow, the priest. With the usual barefacedness of power
not accustomed to find itself disputed, the influence of priests over women
is attacked by Protestant and Liberal writers, less for being bad in itself,
than because it is a rival authority to the husband, and raises up a revolt
against his infallibility. In England, similar differences occasionally
exist when an Evangelical wife has allied herself with a husband of a different
quality; but in general this source at least of dissension is got rid of,
by reducing the minds of women to such a nullity, that they have no opinions
but those of Mrs. Grundy, or those which the husband tells them to have.
When there is no difference of opinion, differences merely of taste may
be sufficient to detract greatly from the happiness of married life. And
though it may stimulate the amatory propensities of men, it does not conduce
to married happiness, to exaggerate by differences of education whatever
may be the native differences of the sexes. If the married pair are well-bred
and well-behaved people, they tolerate each other's tastes; but is mutual
toleration what people look forward to, when they enter into marriage?
These differences of inclination will naturally make their wishes different,
if not restrained by affection or duty, as to almost all domestic questions
which arise. What a difference there must be in the society which the two
persons will wish to frequent, or be frequented by ! Each will desire associates
who share their own tastes: the persons agreeable to one, will be indifferent
or positively disagreeable to the other; yet there can be none who are
not common to both, for married people do not now live in different parts
of the house and have totally different visiting lists, as in the reign
of Louis XV. They cannot help having different wishes as to the bringing
up of the children: each wi]l wish to see reproduced in them their own
tastes and sentiments: and there is either a compromise, and only a half
satisfaction to either, or the wife has to yield—often with bitter suffering;
and, with or without intention, her occult influence continues to counterwork
the husband's purposes. It would of course be extreme folly to suppose
that these differences of feeling and inclination only exist because women
are brought up differently from men, and that there would not be differences
of taste under any imaginable circumstances. But there is nothing beyond
the mark in saying that the distinction in bringing up immensely aggravates
those differences, and renders them wholly inevitable. While women are
brought up as they are, a man and a woman will but rarely find in one another
real agreement of tastes and wishes as to daily life. They will generally
have to give it up as hopeless, and renounce the attempt to have, in the
intimate associate of their daily life, that idem velle, idem nolle, which
is the recognised bond of any society that is really such: or if the man
succeeds in obtaining it, he does so by choosing a woman who is so complete
a nullity that she has no velle or nolle at all, and is as ready to comply
with one thing as another if anybody tells her to do so. Even this calculation
is apt to fail; dullness and want of spirit are not always a guarantee
of the submission which is so confidently expected from them. But if they
were, is this the ideal of marriage ? What, in this case, does the man
obtain by it, except an upper servant, a nurse, or a mistress? on the contrary,
when each of two persons, instead of being a nothing, is a something; when
they are attached to one another, and are not too much unlike to begin
with; the constant partaking in the same things, assisted by their sympathy,
draws out the latent capacities of each for being interested in the things
which were at first interesting only to the other; and works a gradual
assimilation of the tastes and characters to one another, partly by the
insensible modification of each, but more by a real enriching of the two
natures, each acquiring the tastes and capacities of the other in addition
to its own. This often happens between two friends of the same sex, who
are much associated in their daily life: and it would be a common, if not
the commonest, case in marriage, did not the totally different bringing
up of the two sexes make it next to an impossibility to form a really well-assorted
union. Were this remedied, whatever differences there might still be in
individual tastes, there would at least be, as a general rule, complete
unity and unanimity as to the great objects of life. When the two persons
both care for great objects, and are a help and encouragement to each other
in whatever regards these, the minor matters on which their tastes may
differ are not all-important to them; and there is a foundation for solid
friendship, of an enduring character, more likely than anything else t~
make it, through the whole of life, a greater pleasure to each to give
pleasure to the other, than to receive it. I have considered, thus far,
the effects on the pleasures and benefits of the marriage union which depend
on the mere unlikeness between the wife and the husband: but the evil tendency
is prodigiously aggravated when the unlikeness is inferiority. Mere unlikeness,
when it only means difference of good qualities, may be more a benefit
in the way of mutual improvement, than a drawback from comfort. When each
emulates, and desires and endeavours to acquire, the other's peculiar qualities
the difference does not produce diversity of interest, but increased identity
of it, and makes each still more valuable to the other. But when one is
much the inferior of the to in mental ability and cultivation, and is not
actively attempting by the other's aid to rise to the other's level, the
whole influence of the connexion upon the development of the superior of
the two is deteriorating: and still more so in a tolerably happy marriage
than in an unhappy one. It is not with impunity that the superior in intellect
shuts himself up with an inferior, and elects that inferior for his chosen,
and sole completely intimate, associate. Any society which is not improving
is deteriorating: and the more so, the closer and more familiar it is.
Even a really superior man almost always begins to deteriorate when he
is habitually (as the phrase is) king of his company: and in his most habitual
company the husband who has a wife inferior to him is always so. While
his self-satisfaction is incessantly ministered to on the one hand, on
the other he insensibly imbibes the modes of feeling, and of looking at
things, which belong to a more vulgar or a more limited mind than his own.
This evil differs from many of those which have hitherto been dwelt on,
by being an increasing one. The association of men with women in daily
life is much closer and more complete than it ever was before. Men's life
is more domestic. Formerly, their pleasures and chosen occupations were
among men, and in men's company: their wives had but a fragment of their
lives. At the present time, the progress of civilisation, and the turn
of opinion against the rough amusements and convivial excesses which formerly
occupied most men in their hours of relaxation— together with (it must
be said) the improved tone of modern feeling as to the reciprocity of duty
which binds the husband towards the wife—have thrown the man very much
more upon home and its inmates, for his personal and social pleasures:
while the kind and degree of improvement which has been made in women's
education, has made them in some degree capable of being his companions
in ideas and mental taste, while leaving them, in most cases, still hopelessly
inferior to him. His desire of mental communion is thus in general satisfied
by a communion from which he learns nothing. An unimproving and unstimulating
companionship is substituted for (what he might otherwise have been obliged
to seek) the society of his equals in powers and his fellows in the higher
pursuits. We see, accordingly, that young men of the greatest promise generally
cease to improve as soon as they marry, and, not improving, inevitably
degenerate. If the wife does not push the husband forward, she always holds
him back. He ceases to care for what she does not care for; he no longer
desires, and ends by disliking and shunning, society congenial to his former
aspirations, and which would now shame his falling-off from them; his higher
faculties both of mind and heart cease to be called into activity. And
this change coinciding with the new and selfish interests which are created
by the family, after a few years he differs in no material respect from
those who have never had wishes for anything but the common vanities and
the common pecuniary objects. What marriage may be in the case of two persons
of cultivated faculties, identical in opinions and purposes, between whom
there exists that best kind of equality, similarity of powers and capacities
with reciprocal superiority in them—so that each can enjoy the luxury
of looking up to the other, and can have alternately the pleasure of leading
and of being led in the path of development—I will not attempt to describe.
To those who can conceive it, there is no need; to those who cannot, it
would appear the dream of an enthusiast. But I maintain, with the profoundest
conviction, that this, and this only, is the ideal of marriage; and that
all opinions, customs, and institutions which favour any other notion of
it, or turn the conceptions and aspirations connected with it into any
other direction, by whatever pretences they may be coloured, are relics
of primitive barbarism. The moral regeneration of mankind will only really
commence, when the most fundamental of the social relations is placed under
the rule of equal justice, and when human beings learn to cultivate their
strongest sympathy with an equal in nights and in cultivation. Thus far,
the benefits which it has appeared that the world would gain by ceasing
to make sex a disqualification for privileges and a badge of subjection,
are social rather than individual; consisting in an increase of the general
fund of thinking and acting power, and an improvement in the general conditions
of the association of men with women. But it would be a grievous understatement
of the case to omit the most direct benefit of all, the unspeakable gain
in private happiness to the liberated half of the species; the difference
to them between a life of subjection to the will of others, and a life
of rational freedom. After the primary necessities of food and raiment,
freedom is the first and strongest want of human nature. While mankind
are lawless, their desire is for lawless freedom. When they have learnt
to understand the meaning of duty and the value of reason, they incline
more and more to be guided and restrained by these in the exercise of their
freedom; but they do not therefore desire freedom less; they do not become
disposed to accept the will of other people as the representative and interpreter
of those guiding principles. on the contrary, the communities in which
the reason has been most cultivated, and in which the idea of social duty
has been most powerful, are those which have most strongly asserted the
freedom of action of the individual—the liberty of each to govern his
conduct by his own feelings of duty, and by such laws and social restraints
as his own conscience can subscribe to. He who would rightly appreciate
the worth of personal independence as an element of happiness, should consider
the value he himself puts upon it as an ingredient of his own. There is
no subject on which there is a greater habitual difference of judgment
between a man judging for himself, and the same man judging for other people.
When he hears others complaining that they are not allowed freedom of action—that
their own will has not sufficient influence in the regulation of their
affairs—his inclination is, to ask, what are their grievances ? what positive
damage they sustain? and in what respect they consider their affairs to
be mismanaged ? and if they fail to make out, in answer to these questions,
what appears to him a sufficient case, he turns a deaf ear, and regards
their complaint as the fanciful querulousness of people whom nothing reasonable
will satisfy. But he has a quite different standard of judgment when he
is deciding for himself. Then, the most unexceptionable administration
of his interests by a tutor set over him, does not satisfy his feelings:
his personal exclusion from the deciding authority appears itself the greatest
grievance of all, rendering it superfluous even to enter into the question
of mismanagement. It is the same with nations. What citizen of a free country
would listen to any offers of good and skilful administration, in return
for the abdication of freedom? Even if he could believe that good and skilful
administration can exist among a people ruled by a will not their own,
would not the consciousness of working out their own destiny under their
own moral responsibility be a compensation to his feelings for great rudeness
and imperfection in the details of public affairs ? Let him rest assured
that whatever he feels on this point, women feel in a fully equal degree.
Whatever has been said or written, from the time of Herodotus to the present,
of the ennobling influence of free government—the nerve and spring which
it gives to all the faculties, the larger and higher objects which it presents
to the intellect and feelings, the more unselfish public spirit, and calmer
and broader views of duty, that it engenders, and the generally loftier
platform on which it elevates the individual as a moral, spiritual, and
social being—is every particle as true of women as of men. Are these things
no important part of individual happiness ? Let any man call to mind what
he himself felt on emerging from boyhood—from the tutelage and control
of even loved and affectionate elders—and entering upon the responsibilities
of manhood. Was it not like the physical effect of taking off a heavy weight,
or releasing him from obstructive, even if not otherwise painful, bonds?
Did he not feel twice as much alive, twice as much a human being, as before
? And does he imagine that women have none of these feelings? But it is
a striking fact, that the satisfactions and mortifications of personal
pride, though all in all to most men when the case is their own, have less
allowance made for them in the case of other people, and are less listened
to as a ground or a justification of conduct, than any other natural human
feelings; perhaps because men compliment them in their own case with the
names of so many other qualities, that they are seldom conscious how mighty
an influence these feelings exercise in their own lives. No less large
and powerful is their part, we may assure ourselves, in the lives and feelings
of women. Women are schooled into suppressing them in their most natural
and most healthy direction, but the internal principle remains, in a different
outward form. An active and energetic mind, if denied liberty, will seek
for power: refused the command of itself, it will assert its personality
by attempting to control others. To allow to any human beings no existence
of their own but what depends on others, is giving far too high B premium
on bending others to their purposes. Where liberty cannot be hoped for,
and power can, power becomes the grand object of human desire; those to
whom others will not leave the undisturbed management of their own affairs,
will compensate themselves, if they can, by meddling for their own purposes
with the affairs of others. Hence also women's passion for personal beauty,
and dress and display; and all the evils that flow from it, in the way
of mischievous luxury and social immorality. The love of power and the
love of liberty are in eternal antagonism. Where there is least liberty,
the passion for power is the most ardent and unscrupulous. The desire of
power over others can only cease to be a depraving agency among mankind,
when each of them individually is able to do without it: which can only
be where respect for liberty in the personal concerns of each is an established
principle. But it is not only through the sentiment of personal dignity,
that the free direction and disposal of their own faculties is a source
of individual happiness, and to be fettered and restricted in it, a source
of unhappiness, to human beings, and not least to women. There is nothing,
after disease, indigence, and guilt, so fatal to the pleasurable enjoyment
of life as the want o~ a worthy outlet for the active faculties. Women
who have the cares of a family, and while they have the cares of a family,
have this outlet, and it generally suffices for them: but what of the greatly
increasing number of women, who have had no opportunity of exercising the
vocation which they are mocked by telling them is their proper one? What
of the women whose children have been lost to them by death or distance,
or have grown up, married, and formed homes of their own? There are abundant
examples of men who, after a life engrossed by business, retire with a
competency to the enjoyment, as they hope, of rest, but to whom, as they
are unable to acquire new interests and excitements that can replace the
old, the change to a life of inactivity brings ennui, melancholy, and premature
death. Yet no one thinks of the parallel case of so many worthy and devoted
women, who, having paid what they are told is their debt to society—having
brought up a family blamelessly to manhood and womanhood—having kept a
house as long as they had a house needing to be kept—are deserted by the
sole occupation for which they have fitted themselves; and remain with
undiminished activity but with no employment for it, unless perhaps a daughter
or daughter-in-law is willing to abdicate in their favour the discharge
of the same functions in her younger household. Surely a hard lot for the
old age of those who have worthily discharged, as long as it was given
to them to discharge, what the world accounts their only social duty. Of
such women, and of those others to whom this duty has not been committed
at all—many of whom pine through life with the consciousness of thwarted
vocations, and activities which are not suffered to expand—the only resources,
speaking generally, are religion and charity. But their religion, though
it may be one of feeling, and of ceremonial observance, cannot be a religion
of action, unless in the form of charity. For charity many of them are
by nature admirably fitted; but to practise it usefully, or even without
doing mischief, requires the education, the manifold preparation, the knowledge
and the thinking powers, of a skilful administrator. There are few of the
administrative functions of government for which a person would not be
fit, who is fit to bestow charity usefully. In this as in other cases (pre-eminently
in that of the education of children), the duties permitted to women cannot
be performed properly, without their being trained for duties which, to
the great loss of society, are not permitted to them. And here let me notice
the singular way in which the question of women's disabilities is frequently
presented to view, by those who find it easier to draw a ludicrous picture
of what they do not like, than to answer the arguments for it. When it
is suggested that women's executive capacities and prudent counsels might
sometimes be found valuable in affairs of State, these lovers of fun hold
up to the ridicule of the world, as sitting in Parliament or in the Cabinet,
girls in their teens, or young wives of two or three and twenty, transported
bodily, exactly as they are, from the drawing-room to the House of Commons.
They forget that males are not usually selected at this early age for a
seat in Parliament, or for responsible political functions. Common sense
would tell them that if such trusts were confided to women, it would be
to such as having no special vocation for married life, or preferring another
employment of their faculties (as many women even now prefer to marriage
some of the few honourable occupations within their reach), have spent
the best years of their youth in attempting to qualify themselves for the
pursuits in which they desire to engage; or still more frequently perhaps,
widows or wives of forty or fifty, by whom the know- ledge of life and
faculty of government which they have acquired in their families, could
by the aid of appropriate studies be made available on a less contracted
scale. There is no country of Europe in which the ablest men have not frequently
experienced, and keenly appreciated, the value of the advice and help of
clever and experienced women of the world, in the attainment both of private
and of public objects; and there are important matters of public administration
to which few men are equally competent with such women; among others, the
detailed control of expenditure. But what we are now discussing is not
the need which society has of the services of women in public business,
but the dull and hopeless life to which it so often condemns them, by forbidding
them to exercise the practical abilities which many of them are conscious
of, in any wider field than one which to some of them never was, and to
others is no longer, open. If there is anything vitally important to the
happiness of human beings, it is that they should relish their habitual
pursuit. This requisite of an enjoyable life is very imperfectly granted,
or altogether denied, to a large part of mankind; and by its absence many
a life is a failure, which is provided, in appearance, with every requisite
of success. But if circumstances which society is not yet skilful enough
to overcome, render such failures often for the present inevitable, society
need not itself inflict them. The injudiciousness of parents, a youth's
own inexperience, or the absence of external opportunities for the congenial
vocation, and their presence for an uncongenial, condemn numbers of men
to pass their lives in doing one thing reluctantly and ill, when there
are other things which they could have done well and happily. But on women
this sentence is imposed by actual law, and by customs equivalent to law.
What, in unenlightened societies, colour, race, religion, or in the case
of a conquered country, nationality, are to some men, sex is to all women;
a peremptory exclusion from almost all honourable occupations, but either
such as cannot be fulfilled by others, or such as those others do not think
worthy of their acceptance. Sufferings arising from causes of this nature
usually meet with so little sympathy, that few persons are aware of the
great amount of unhappiness even now produced by the feeling of a wasted
life. The case will be even more frequent, as increased cultivation creates
a greater and greater disproportion between the ideas and faculties- of
women, and the scope which society allows to their activity. When we consider
the positive evil caused to the disqualified half of the human race by
their disqualification—first in the loss of the most inspiriting and elevating
kind of personal enjoyment, and next in the weariness, disappointment,
and profound dissatisfaction with life, which are so often the substitute
for it; one feels that among all the lessons which men require for carrying
on the struggle against the inevitable imperfections of their lot on earth,
there is no lesson which they more need, than not to add to the evils which
nature inflicts, by their jealous and prejudiced restrictions on one another.
Their vain fears only substitute other and worse evils for those which
they are idly apprehensive of: while every restraint on the freedom of
conduct of any of their human fellow-creatures (otherwise than by making
them responsible for any evil actually caused by it), dries up pro tanto
the principal fountain of human happiness, and leaves the species less
rich, to an inappreciable degree, in all that makes life valuable to the
individual human being.
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based on the Everyman's Library edition, originally published in 1929,
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